My 1st TMI Tuesday

1. How old is your longest living relative? 93

2. Do you hope to live to this age? Why? At one point in time I would have said no way but as I get older I realize how precious life is and I’d like to live as long as I can to experience as much as I can especially considering how much time I wasted in my misspent youth. I hope that I still have an active sex life in my older years and that I’m able to have a good time doing other activities that i enjoy, even if that means knitting or whatever I’m into by then.

3. What is your family’s native language? Your native language? English, Australian English which is really UK English with a bit of Aussie slang thrown in.

4. How old were you when you started dating? 13, and I can’t believe my mother let me go out with a 21 year old, luckily we didn’t have sex, not that he didn’t try to. Now I’m grown I see how inappropriate that age difference was especially at my young age.

5. How old were you when you first had sex–any kind of sex? I would have been 12 when I started playing around sexually and 14 when I had actual sex. My mother was the first person I told, we had a strange relationship but I feel sorry for her now having to hear that about her daughter. I lost my virginity to a boy the same age as me who I’d grown up with. I no longer see him but for quite some time I di. I had a real crush on him for a long time and always regretted the fact that nothing more ever came from it.

Bonus: How would you describe your sense of humor?

I have a dark sense of humor sometimes I can be sarcastic and people don’t know if I’m joking or not unless they’ve really gotten to know me and how I am. I like to think that I’m funny although I’m sure many would disagree, at least I can make myself laugh.

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The Lowdown on Anal for KoTW

B&W Sexy Butt

B&W Sexy Butt
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Kink of The Week: Anal

Can anal really be pleasurable? Absolutely, it can be amazing. When it’s done right anal opens up another world of opportunities in the bedroom.

Anal sex isn’t for everyone. Not everyone has to do it. But it seems to be increasingly popular these days and less of a taboo with more women and men openly discussing their anal sex-capades particularly online in forums and the like. Or reading about it on blogs like this one.

There was a time when I would have said no way, I’ll never do that, with an eww on the end for good measure. It wasn’t a taste I developed overnight but once I got the liking for it I never looked back. While anal isn’t something I do all that regularly, when I do I enjoy it, a lot.

Preparation

Cleanliness is a concern for some people when it comes to anal. There’s no denying that sometimes there’s a chance some poop may be a part of the experience. That can be avoided by preparing yourself. To do this it’s a good idea to go to the loo first and empty your bowels. Some people use enemas although that’s not really necessary and I’ve heard it can have health implications. Personally I’ve never done it. General hygiene is important to avoid any embarrassment. If you haven’t washed down there properly it can quickly ruin the moment so always have a quick wash first. Condoms are a good way to ensure you don’t come into contact with poo if you’re really worried about it and it is vital to practice safe sex, especially when it comes to anal.

Safe Sex

Anal sex is different to vaginal sex in numerous ways but one of the most important things to be aware of is the likelihood of STI’s being passed on or caught is greater with anal sex. This is because the lining of the anus is a fragile membrane much thinner than the skin inside a vagina and more prone to tearing, it can tear a tiny bit during intercourse without you even knowing it. For this reason using condoms is best unless you and your partner are exclusive and know each others STI status. Whether you practice anal or not it’s a good idea to get tested regularly if you’re sexually active. Safe sex is good sex as I like to say.

Now the safe sex reminder is done with I’ll go on. There is a right way and a wrong way to approach anal sex or play and the best way to go about it is slowly. Take your time and don’t expect to get full penetration or positions like you see in porn straight away. You may not be able to do anal doggy style for some time as your body needs to adjust to having the anus penetrated. You probably won’t be able to right away unless you have had some type of penetration anally before.  

Starting off

Ideally you should begin with something small like a finger and only after some arousal. I found toys to be useful in getting me ready, vibrators are great for speeding up the process of arousal and getting into it down there, anal is no different. In fact sometimes when I am just using a toy like a vibrator on my own I get the urge for anal. Ironically that’s when I probably want it the most, when it’s not available. Having said that, if you’re on your own there’s nothing wrong with using toys anally.

Toys

It’s important to know there’s toys that are specifically for anal use. They must have a flared base. This is extremely important as items can get “sucked” into the rectum resulting in real medical issues. Potentially needing an Emergency Room procedure to remove them. So make sure any toys you use for your butt aren’t able to go further than they are intended on going.

The shape of a butt plug is designed to stay in your butt while you have vaginal penetration or other types of intercourse or activity. Using a butt plug will help ready you for full penetration, you will know when you are ready. You can also get anal dildos or dildos which are suitable for anal use with the flared base.

Lubricants

Lube is also important for anal, use it and lots of it, as much as you need. Special anal lubes exist, they’re thicker in texture so they don’t absorb or dry out as fast. Never use any type of numbing lube on your bum, there’s a reason we have the pain receptors and you need to be able to feel if something is not right or you could end up doing some damage if you can’t feel it enough to stop.

If you don’t use lubricant it can become uncomfortable or painful as you don’t create the same amount of fluid in your buttocks as a vagina does and the skin or membrane on the inside is fragile, thin and prone to breakage. Lubricant helps things run more smoothly.

Penetration and Relaxation

Feeling relaxed enough is another part of achieving anal penetration. Try different positions, lying on your side can help you remain relaxed, everyone is going to be different. In that side position your partner can come in from behind you and you can control some of the depth and motion from there.

You may not need full penetration, always or ever. For some just a finger or small toy is all they need. It’s enough to stimulate the nerves in your anus which can trigger a pretty intense orgasm. I have heard its related to your g-spot but personally I think it feels like a different type of orgasm, more fully engulfing.

Sometimes after a small amount of play or a little bit of penetration your body may crave more. That’s how it should feel when you’re ready to take the plunge and receive anal sex. It shouldn’t be forced and if it is even then it will need to be a process for it to be pleasurable and not just painful.

The sphincters in your anus are used to holding things inside and not letting anything from outside in.

To fully enjoy anal you need to get past that point and be relaxed enough to take it in. Initially it can be uncomfortable but it shouldn’t hurt like hell, the discomfort should subside when you get to the right position. I’ve read there is two sphincter points so once you get past the first you then need to get past the second before you can fully engage in anal sex.

Often you won’t need lots of thrusting like you get with vaginal sex and a slower, smoother motion is more pleasurable. Sometimes just the insertion is enough to trigger orgasm, the same goes with taking it out again, it gets all those nerve endings and can end up making you cum just when you thought it was over (or just beginning.)

More types of Anal & Kinks

As you get more experience with anal you will know what pleases you and what you can handle. Some like fisting while others just like a finger or two inside. Sometimes anal stimulation externally is all that’s needed or wanted. Just as some people are very uncomfortable about their anus being touched at all.

Rimming has also grown in popularity of late and seems to be more of a normal activity. If you haven’t heard the term rimming refers to licking around the anus and even inside it but generally around the edge or the rim. It can be quite an intimate feeling as with any anal play it can bring a couple closer together.

Gaining experience with anal, for females can open up the possibility of another kink, double penetration, or two cocks at once. This can be achieved with toys and doesn’t necessarily need to involve another person unless all parties are agreed and consent to it then it’s also fine.

I can’t speak for males on how it feels to engage in anal sex. I know many men seem to want to give but seem almost scared at the thought of receiving. We know that having anal sex or being penetrated doesn’t make you gay and many straight men enjoy it, more and more seem to be engaging in anal for their own enjoyment. Stimulation of the prostate gland is said to arouse an intense response and can cause ejaculation. Men are becoming more able to explore themselves and their sexuality. If you feel like its something you’d like to try it, think about talking to your partner or finding one who would be a good fit with you whom you can talk to freely and discuss the idea of experimenting.

Pegging is a form of anal where one partner wears a strap-on dildo and proceeds to perform penetration on the other person anally. It seems to be growing in popularity as a kink. There’s many videos of pegging around if you’re interested in seeing more pegging action. There’s lots of anal porn around these days to get you in the mood or maybe help you decide if it’s not your thing. (Side note: Please remember to pay for your porn.)

So whether anal play or penetration is your thing or not your kink you have nothing to worry about. Just maintain safe practices and look after yourself, listen to your body’s cues and you should have some great times.

Safe Sane and Consensual fun equals pleasure for everyone

So there it is, there’s many ways to incorporate anal into your sex life, it doesn’t have to be full penetrative anal or it could be plus a bit more if you’re into it. Whatever you do ensure you so it safely with everyone involved consenting and you are likely in for a good time. Initially it can be hard for some to get over the stigma they’ve been raised with but once you’ve had a positive experience with anal it’s hard to look back. It is intense and can cause some mind blowing orgasms. It’s worth experimenting if you’re open to it and as I said earlier there is heaps of sex toys suitable for the job if you don’t have a willing partner or if you would like some additional fun when you’re playing.

Personally I love anal but I limit the amount of anal I have. Perhaps if i was more committed to doing my pelvic floor exercises I would be able to relax about doing it more often but everyone is individual and your choices are fine for you.

Nobody else has to live with the choices you make so just make the right ones for yourself,  including whether or not to have anal sex and how much or how often. If you decide it’s not for you that’s fine too there should be no shame with our choices in the bedroom so long as it’s all consensual and nobody gets hurt unwillingly. Safe, sane and consensual are the key factors in kinky play and BDSM and I think it would across the board in the bedroom, follow those guidelines and you will be free to explore your sexuality and enjoy every minute.

Have fun exploring, I’ll see you soon for another Kink of The Week.

Where There’s Life There’s Hope

Where There is Life There is Hope
Where There is Life There is Hope
Where There is Life There is Hope

Wicked Wednesday

Trigger Warning Themes of abuse, suicide and drug use.

My Ex

I wasn’t going to share this story for wicked Wednesday, fearing it’s not wicked enough, but it’s a big part of who I am today and one of the experiences that has shaped me. Last week for Sex Talk Tuesday on twitter I referred to this experience which brought up some stuff for me so maybe it’s the right time to discuss the situation a little more.

I was going to tell a story about an ex I bumped into not long ago and spent the evening with, drinking which hurt my current partner and led me to decide I wouldn’t stay in contact with ex’s any longer. My current boyfriend teases me about how many ex’s I have so I probably could have come up with a different story this one however might give some insight into who I am and what I’ve been through, there’s nothing erotic about it but it has an important message for others out there.

There is one ex though who I will never be able to have contact with again. That’s what I’m going to tell you about today. He is no longer with us and the last time I saw him he split my forehead open, the look on his face as he walked out the door was a mixture of regret, fear and remorse. That look is the last thing I had to remember of him, and the fight that led up to it.

After my ex assaulted me, I left and went into a refuge. I’d tried to break it up many times, but he would always come back so I figured the best way was for me to leave. This was one of the times I tried to break up and that was what led to the assault, he felt rejected and knew that for once it was actually over for me. I couldn’t do it any longer.

We spent about 5 and a half years in an on again off again relationship, he spent most of the time we were together still seeing his ex-girlfriend which was hurtful and caused me a lot of trauma. Looking back I see that if I had cut ties the first time it would have prevented a lot of heartache for everyone. After the assault I left I stayed in refuge for 9 or 10 weeks, it was a tough time. To begin with they move you around a lot and you must be put in areas where you have no connections, so I went through the motions. He kept trying to ring me wanting to get back together.

This wasn’t the first time he’d been violent, but it was one of the worse times, so I had him charged. It took police awhile to find him, I ended up moving home on the same day they located him. He spent a few days on remand and was let out. When he got out he went back to his ex’s who he’d spent most of our relationship seeing behind my back, that was difficult for me to cope with. By this stage I was just glad he seemed to be getting on with his life and leaving me alone. I didn’t know what he had planned though.

A few days later I was contacted by a friend to tell me my ex was dead, he had overdosed. Nobody in his family told me, his ex who was with him when he died didn’t tell me the friend who did give me the news was thrilled to do so, thinking it was something I’d be happy about. Whatever we went through I couldn’t be happy that he was dead. I felt some guilt and even anger as I processed what had happened thinking that maybe he did it to hurt me, if that was the case it’s the ultimate act of domestic violence.

They suspected it was a suicide, after some investigation that was the finding that he had killed himself. We had a child together, so it was devastating and confusing on so many levels. His family blame me. They still see his ex, the one he used to take drugs with and who was there when he died but not me, it was my fault as far as they’re concerned. I went through a stage of thinking I should have just let it go when he hit me and maybe none of it would have happened, it might not have but the violence would have continued. I couldn’t let it, I’d copped so much from him over the years it had to stop somewhere.

There’s much more to the story I just told but the gist of it is there, if I had cut ties with my violent ex when it first got abusive we may have avoided the whole tragedy. The fact is that I wasn’t happy in the relationship and should have left it a long time ago.

I will never forget what happened and it will continue to affect me. On the night he died I had something come into my head that wouldn’t leave, “Where there is life there is hope,” I don’t know if that was his parting message, I’d like to think it was. I’ve used that quote quite a lot since then, it’s especially relevant to those who suffer mental illness, like I do or anyone having thoughts of suicide. There is always hope so long as we’re alive.

While we are alive we can always change things if we’re not happy with how they are. This includes relationships, we can end them or begin new ones, whatever it is that you want to do, do it now while you still have the chance.  I  hope his soul has found peace and knows  that I now forgive him for the hurt he caused me, I find it hard to forgive him for ending it all though, that is really difficult.

I’m sorry this post wasn’t erotic but it is an important event that had significant ramifications and affected many people. His children will now grow up without a father and it’s tragic. If you ever feel desperately sad or depressed just remember nothing lasts forever, “after every dark day a bright day comes after that.*”

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*very true Tupac song lyrics from the song Unconditional Love

Sounds Like Mutual Masturbation

Listening ear

Masturbation Monday

I’ve been meaning to contribute to Masturbation Monday for quite some time. I’m glad to finally be able to join in and share a personal story about something that recently happened. So here it is, enjoy.

Listening ear
Listening

Sound like Mutual Masturbation

I experienced something out of the ordinary the other day. Afterwards I lay there laughing in pleasure and disbelief, my body still tingling. The happiness and satisfaction I felt in those moments, it was truly orgasmic – a moment of pure pleasure.

Many times I’ve listened to my lover’s voice and felt aroused by the sound of it and sometimes turned on by what was being said and hearing his voice moan in pleasure could make me do the same just from hearing it. If I get lucky and can feel the vibration of his voice, I’m in heaven. I didn’t realize the power it could have over me until now.

Usually I don’t cum, not easily anyway. It’s hard to explain so he gets left feeling that his amazing skills are unable to affect me. He gets me so close to orgasm I can’t believe my mind would be so cruel to stop me so far into it. It’s shitty and makes me feel double crap when I see he feels like he somehow failed. So moments like this one are particularly valuable.

So back to my story. This day it was hot, it’s Summer here and he was home from work. We had the fan pointed towards the bed and the blind shut to keep out the hot sun. To set the scene for you more I will explain what was happening.

It was a quiet day and all I could hear was the clicking and whooshing of the fan, the buzzing of my vibrator and the rattling coming from our fridge as it broke down there in the kitchen. Next to me, my boyfriend slept and his breathing felt comforting the occasional snore telling me he was still asleep.

He and I were spending time relaxing with each other before we’d had sex. After the sex we were both lying on the bed, him asleep and satisfied, myself not so much. As usual I hadn’t cum yet, so I was playing with one of my toys just lying there relaxed moving the vibrator around my pussy feeling in an absent minded manner. That is until he woke up. He saw me playing and immediately snapped. He began watching me as he started to play with himself.

Looking on as he played with himself was more enjoyable for me than I expected, he looked hot. Watching his pull up and down firmly holding his hard cock turned me on. The thought of it now turns me on he looks so great when he has his penis in his hand gripping it tightly with confidence and ownership, it looks so erotic and natural. It’s such a masculine vision, he seems so confident and hot in a position that is completely natural for him.

I wish I was watching him wank himself right now as I write about it and remember watching him satisfy himself while fantasizing. He is a sexy man that’s for sure. He keeps wanking at this point he seems to not want to do anything that could interfere with my mission, to make myself cum.

Then he does something new. He closes his eyes and starts to fantasize out loud, saying what he was thinking about. His fantasy included descriptions of what I was doing with or to him and orders to do other things like sucking his cock or “taking it all, like a good girl.” He has a great imagination and the scenarios he comes up with are always horny and much more hot than I can think up alone. At one point there was another male joining in with us.

This day his dirty talk gets me going, some of it’s downright filthy talk and I loved it! if anyone else had ever said the things he says sometimes I’d likely slap them.

But he gets me off in what sometimes seem like the strangest ways. Telling me what a dirty girl I was in his mind and watching him wank off in his imagination got me going increasingly by the moment. Our sexual energy rose so together. I didn’t expect myself to cum, as I usually don’t but as he kept going talking dirtier and dirtier, doing things in his mind I let myself join in on the ride of the fantasy with him.

Imagining myself doing all kinds of naughty things for him so he would praise me for being a good girl for sucking his cock right and taking it all. It sounded like he was enjoying himself and that I was pleasing him right.

He was saying things like, “Yeah that’s right, take it like a good girl,”

“you’re a naughty little girl aren’t you?”

“You love it don’t you?” and

“suck daddy’s cock, put it all in.” or “ooh yeah that’s the spot”

He lay there with his eyes shut imagining us doing all kinds of things, pulling himself off.

After watching him and listening intently for some time I let my head fall back on the pillow and just let myself go, listening to him and playing with myself at the same time. Our rhythms were both increasing as his rose, getting ready to climax. When he cums he doesn’t do it quietly, letting it all out and I love how I can hear his release every time especially when it’s a big one.

His fantasies were good enough that they did the trick for him. He let himself go, releasing the pent up tension letting out the first moan got me. By the time he finished moaning loudly and had cum all on his stomach something happened that I’m still surprised by.

The sound of his voice triggered me and I came too, at the exact time as he did. It felt unbelievable, I couldn’t control myself. I came for about a minute, maybe more. I hope next time I hear him enjoying himself like that I’m able to cum again, it was such an awesome experience. It was so unexpected I started giggling, feeling completely happy and relaxed but also surprised that his talking and the sound of him getting off is one of the things that’s actually made me cum.

That has to be the best mutual masturbation session ever.

 

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iWand Personal Massager Review

Purple iWand Massager with power cord.
Purple iWand Massager with power cord.
iWand with Power Cord

iWand Enhanced Rechargeable Massager Review

I was really excited to get a wand, finally even though the iWand is more like a generic wand than a well known brand. I’ve wanted one for awhile after hearing all the hype about how great they are. When I first tried out my new iWand, I was a bit deflated. Having expected to get instant mind blowing orgasm when I didn’t the first time it was a let down. After giving it a real go, playing with it several more times, I was willing to give it another chance thinking maybe it wasn’t all bad.

You can see my review of a smaller personal massager here

Size

The iWand is a big toy, the biggest I’ve used so far which felt a bit odd to start with then it became a bit of a novelty. Once I really got used to it I found the size to be a plus, enabling the vibration to stimulate a wider area. With lube the rounded head made of soft silicone slides around to wherever you want to feel it.

Functions

The iWand has 10 speeds or more accurately modes with different pulsations and two levels of constant vibration.

It’s made of 100% silicone and phthalate free which is a plus because it’s made from body safe materials, unfortunately not all toys are. Another feature I like about it is that it’s waterproof which is becoming pretty standard in rechargeable sex toys. Not only can you have fun in the shower or bath but it makes for easier cleaning.

Price and warranty

It also comes with a 1 year warranty which is good for any electrical product, especially sex toys which can set you back a bit financially. The iWand isn’t overly expensive mine was bought on clearance so it was cheap. I just had a look and they’re selling for anywhere between $25 and $80aud, a bargain really.Massage I found it worked well for massaging my lower back and other areas which hold tension. It was fun to play with, with my partner which we did a couple of times. The size is a real novelty factor which took a bit of getting used to.

This morning I had a back ache and used it before I had to go out, it got rid of the pain in no time.

Using the iWand

I wouldn’t say it’s my favorite toy but I’m glad I tried it out. After getting used to the size and how it works and feels, I was able to reach orgasm which I can’t always and don’t with all toys, so that’s a major positive. It does actually do what I purchased it to for.

I’m glad I have had an introduction into the world of wand vibrators and look forward to getting my hands on a quality brand wand one day so I can experience a more intense vibration and have more control over how strong the vibration is as most have more than two levels of strength. I love that its pink, it also comes in purple, both my favorite colors.

The price wasn’t too bad but I kind of wish I had saved up for a more well known brand of wand and probably a corded one for power. The cordless design gives you some freedom and flexibility but the power output isn’t the same when it’s not plugged into mains power.

Charging

It charges quite quickly, with 3 hours of charging giving you 3 hours of battehysicalry usage. I wish it could be used while it’s plugged in to mains power but it doesn’t allow for that so when it’s charging you just have to wait. My first impression of it is that it’s more of a novelty toy than a real wand vibrator. I guess I should have known it wouldn’t have the grunt of a mains power, plug in type wand.

Being rechargeable is a bonus most of the time but sometimes it doesn’t provide the power you need for the job, with a wand you really want that kind of intensity.

My overall final impression

The iWand makes for a novelty toy or good beginners wand so you can give one a try on a low budget.mI suggest thinking about saving the money and putting it towards a newer wand manufactured by a reputable well known company, many will come with a warranty so it’s worth some consideration.

The oomph of the vibration might be enough for some people or like for me it was enough sometimes. I would’ve liked to have more control over the level of vibration. It did do the job in the end so I can’t complain entirely. It’s not a terrible toy, but as I said earlier more of a novelty item.

For now, I am still awaiting the day I reward myself with a wand that is reputable and runs on mains power. Until then I’ll play with my iWand when the feeling takes me.

(Update: I got a Lovehoney Wand so I’ll be doing a review on that soon!)

Review: After Dark Intimate Wipes

In exchange for an honest review I was given some After Dark intimate wipes to try out. Here is my review.

After Dark I believe are an Australian business, although I should double check that. The staff are friendly and helpful, you can contact via their website or catch up with them at exhibitions such as Sexpo, as I was meant to last year.

As the name suggests After Dark Intimate Wipes are wipes for those times when you need a quick freshen up down there. If for whatever reason can’t access a shower they can be a godsend, especially during that time of the month or an unplanned or unexpected sexual encounter.

After a quick wipe over you’ll be feeling and smelling much better. There’s nothing worse than worrying if everything is in tip top shape downstairs when things start to heat up. I can recall a few times I wish I had some intimate wipes on hand to make sure I was more prepared when the opportunity presented itself.

By putting them to the test in Summer we can see how effective they are. Testing them in the perfect conditions one may say. 

I’ve tested out After Dark Intimate Wipes using them when needed over about a month.

Let’s check out some of their claims first. 

After Dark Intimate Wipes are

  • For all genders, not just women.
  • Made from 100% bamboo fibre giving the wipes a soft feel
  • Hypo-allergenic
  • Alcohol free
  • PH balanced (important for use down there!)
  • Enriched with the moisturizing effects of Vitamin E
  • Contain soothing Aloe Vera
  • Antibacterial
  • Odor removing
  • Not tested on animals

 

My Thoughts

The wipes are moist but not overly dripping wet, which is good in my opinion they help clean and don’t create a mess. The scent is mild, not at all overpowering, somehow the wipes go to work on your body odor, neutralizing them so you feel and smell fresh as a daisy. Yeah, Daisey’s must be pretty fresh.

After Dark Intimate Wipes are suitable for sensitive skin, like with anything you put on your skin if irritation occurs cease use immediately, it’s unlikely you will experience any irritation being hypoallergenic with added soothing ingredients like Aloe Vera and Vitamin E.

Packs are available with individually wrapped wipes so you can keep some in your bag or pocket even and some at home. They would be perfect for people working maybe even sex workers in a rush to get home or people out on the scene or dating. 

It’s always best to be prepared, things always seem to happen when you least expect them to. Especially those moments when chemistry strikes.

After Dark wipes can be used for cleaning sex toys and accessories. They’re perfect for getting off any dust or lint particles on those toys that just seem to attract everything. You can even use them for the quick midday change of a menstrual cup at work to save from having to leave the cubicle. Check out my review of fun cups for more on menstrual cups.

You can use them for just about anything you might use wipes for even removing your makeup if you happen to have an unplanned overnight stay with your new friend. Or you might just like to freshen up on a hot day so you feel better in yourself. They don’t have to be used only for sexual purposes although sex is a great reason to use them and you won’t really want to waste them on anything else. 

I wondered if the wipes would leave a strong taste if used before oral sex but they worked wonderfully, especially since its the middle of Summer here. I’ve used them a few times and asked my partner if he noticed any smells or tastes and he said I seemed fine and clean. No yucky perfumes or body odor to ruin the moment. And what good moments they were too, thanks for your contribution After Dark.

They felt great too, the wipes are soft which is nice for using it on your genitals and they’re big enough to get a good clean from one wipe, you wouldn’t really need more than a few. They were more effective than I thought they’d be, relying on the wipes actually cleaning you and not just covering up smells with fake perfumes.

Unlike other wipes they didn’t leave any residue on my skin or leave me feeling sticky and gross. After Dark Intimate Wipes felt refreshing and cleansing with a soft moisturizing effect, leaving my skin soft and silky smooth.

The packaging is quite sexy too which is a plus, it doesn’t look like baby wipes which aren’t really compatible with getting in the mood.

I’ll gladly use After Dark Intimate Wipes in future and recommend them to others especially those on the go or who may need to spend hours away from home at work or wherever. They’re so convenient and easy to use for a quick spruce up. It’s amazing the difference a bit of a wipe can do for the way you feel.  It’s much easier to get into it when you feel clean so I think these are a good idea, especially the individually packed wipes.

They felt so great I’d be happy to use them all the time. They’re especially great for the hotter months of Summer when things can get a bit sweaty just going about your day. I was glad to get several chances to try them out with my partner, the wipes didn’t let me down.

I felt clean every time I used them and my partner was happy with them which is a good sign, if they didn’t work he would’ve noticed straight away. Even he was impressed and I was glad to get more oral than normal so they were definitely beneficial for me.

I’d love to try the new oil in After Dark range, maybe I’ll get to review it one day.  

My Top 5 or so Favorite Sex Blogs of 2017

Top Bloggers of 2017

Apologies for bringing you my best of 2017 when we are already into 2018. I figured better late than never and what better time to start catching up on unfinished work than now?  I’m going to try and create a blogging schedule I can stick to this year and some of these superstar bloggers have got it down-pat, whatever their method is it’s working for them, their blogs are fantastic, informative and just really well done.

Hopefully you will check out a few from my list they are all brilliant in their own ways.

I would have made a list of 100 but I thought I better limit myself. So here’s to my midweek version of SoSS, my round-up of my fave sex blogs from 2017. I’m so glad I found each and every one of them.

  1. A great site which I really love is Candy Snatch Reviews by a Sex Positive writer who I find to be quite inspirational. Not only is she a fantastic writer she is beautiful, inside and out, smart and talented. She has a natural style which shines through on her site. I was recently convinced to buy some lingerie from Lovehoney because she looked so freaken hot in her review pics. With many accomplishments under her belt in the sex blogging and writing field including being part of the Pleasure Panel you can read her reviews, articles, erotica and more in her blog. 
  2.  Dangerous Lilly’s  blog is informative and invaluable for anyone interested in sex toys particularly sex bloggers. I wish I had paid more attention to her when I first stumbled across her site. I’ve spent a lot of time recently over there looking at her articles on the ingredients found in our sex toys and lubes, there is some really well written and important info over there. She also has advice for new sex bloggers which I can’t get enough of at the moment, so she’s on my top 5 list right now.  I love her snarky attitude and that she has a tonne of knowledge tucked away on her site.
  3. Another blog I have revisited over and over again the last few weeks mainly for the Sex Blogger SEO articles, which are really fantastic. Ace in the hole is a great sex blogger all round, I can actually really relate to some of her writing about being an asexual sex blogger, I don’t identify as being asexual but sometimes feel like I could be close. Her honest and well written articles and reviews are great and I’m glad I found them in time to make it into my list!
  4. Isabelle Lauren has an awesome blog where she posts some great sex toy reviews and writes erotic fiction among other things. I really like her site and have gotten to know her a bit better over Twitter after winning a competition on her site.  I am looking forward to receiving my prize so I can write a review on it. If you want to check her out her twitter handle is @romanticIsa and her official site can be found at  Isabelle Lauren .
  5. (and 6) Cara Sutra and Joellen at The Redhead Bedhead are Sex Blogging superstars and I wanted to include them here for sharing such a wealth of information and  being entertaining and fantastic bloggers when they’re not sharing all their secrets to success. I am always in awe of the brilliance of some people out there when it comes to blogging. Are they just natural talents or did they too learn like I’m trying too?
Top Bloggers of 2017
Top Sex Bloggers pic by / Pixabay

Special Mention

Three of my all time favorite sex bloggers spend a lot of time encouraging other newbies and I love their work.

  • Molly who works tirelessly to bring us the latest sex blogging glory including Sinful Sundays and so much more  at Molly’s Daily Kiss
  • Rebelle  who hosts Wicked Wednesday and runs her own awesome blog Rebelsnotes 
  • and Kayla who hosts Masturbation Mondays from KaylaLords.com

This post was actually meant to be for last weeks Wicked Wednesday but I think I’ve cut it a bit fine and missed the deadline, you can find other bloggers best of lists at Wicked Wednesday 

I recently wrote about other bloggers who I admire here for my 1st SoSS 

I hope I haven’t been too repetitive, if I have it means I love your work twice as much! So there is my top sex blogs of 2017 from me I hope you can find something you like in this great list of amazing bloggers!

 

My Top 5 or so Favorite Sex Blogs of 2017

Top Bloggers of 2017

Apologies for bringing you my best of 2017 when we are already into 2018. I figured better late than never and what better time to start catching up on unfinished work than now?  I’m going to try and create a blogging schedule I can stick to this year and some of these superstar bloggers have got it down-pat, whatever their method is it’s working for them, their blogs are fantastic, informative and just really well done.

Hopefully you will check out a few from my list they are all brilliant in their own ways.

I would have made a list of 100 but I thought I better limit myself. So here’s to my midweek version of SoSS, my round-up of my fave sex blogs from 2017. I’m so glad I found each and every one of them.

  1. A great site which I really love is Candy Snatch Reviews by a Sex Positive writer who I find to be quite inspirational. Not only is she a fantastic writer she is beautiful, inside and out, smart and talented. She has a natural style which shines through on her site. I was recently convinced to buy some lingerie from Lovehoney because she looked so freaken hot in her review pics. With many accomplishments under her belt in the sex blogging and writing field including being part of the Pleasure Panel you can read her reviews, articles, erotica and more in her blog. 
  2.  Dangerous Lilly’s  blog is informative and invaluable for anyone interested in sex toys particularly sex bloggers. I wish I had paid more attention to her when I first stumbled across her site. I’ve spent a lot of time recently over there looking at her articles on the ingredients found in our sex toys and lubes, there is some really well written and important info over there. She also has advice for new sex bloggers which I can’t get enough of at the moment, so she’s on my top 5 list right now.  I love her snarky attitude and that she has a tonne of knowledge tucked away on her site.
  3. Another blog I have revisited over and over again the last few weeks mainly for the Sex Blogger SEO articles, which are really fantastic. Ace in the hole is a great sex blogger all round, I can actually really relate to some of her writing about being an asexual sex blogger, I don’t identify as being asexual but sometimes feel like I could be close. Her honest and well written articles and reviews are great and I’m glad I found them in time to make it into my list!
  4. Isabelle Lauren has an awesome blog where she posts some great sex toy reviews and writes erotic fiction among other things. I really like her site and have gotten to know her a bit better over Twitter after winning a competition on her site.  I am looking forward to receiving my prize so I can write a review on it. If you want to check her out her twitter handle is @romanticIsa and her official site can be found at  Isabelle Lauren .
  5. (and 6) Cara Sutra and Joellen at The Redhead Bedhead are Sex Blogging superstars and I wanted to include them here for sharing such a wealth of information and  being entertaining and fantastic bloggers when they’re not sharing all their secrets to success. I am always in awe of the brilliance of some people out there when it comes to blogging. Are they just natural talents or did they too learn like I’m trying too?

 

 

Top Bloggers of 2017
LUM3N / Pixabay

Special Mention

Three of my all time favorite sex bloggers spend a lot of time encouraging other newbies and I love their work.

  • Molly who works tirelessly to bring us the latest sex blogging glory including Sinful Sundays and so much more  at Molly’s Daily Kiss
  • Rebel  who hosts Wicked Wednesday and runs her own awesome blog Rebelsnotes 
  • and Kayla who hosts Masturbation Mondays from KaylaLords.com

This post was actually meant to be for last weeks Wicked Wednesday but I think I’ve cut it a bit fine and missed the deadline, you can find other bloggers best of lists at Wicked Wednesday 

I recently wrote about other bloggers who I admire here for my 1st SoSS 

I hope I haven’t been too repetitive, if I have it means I love your work twice as much! So there is my top sex blogs of 2017 from me I hope you can find something you like in this great list of amazing bloggers!

 

The Postman; Wicked Wednesday #290 NSFW

Picture from Pixabay

The Postman
NSFW Erotic Fiction
Wicked Wednesday #290
Marathon theme

Picture from Pixabay
Photo courtesy of Rewrite27 / Pixabay

Claire was washing the dishes, part of her usual morning routine. Her blonde hair was still wet from taking a shower she would dry it after getting the kitchen done. Wearing a singlet and her undies she was comfortable and cool in the warm house and looked good, her legs were smooth and shaven. Looking down at the dishwater her hands were in, she felt a little disgusted at the murky colour of the water.

She’d had guests last night and the extra dishes made her wish the dishwasher was working. She glared at it, “stupid thing,” she muttered aloud to herself. Nobody else was home, Peter was away training for his marathon, the second he’d done in a few months. She was starting to feel neglected, his absence was beginning to annoy her. She was proud of him but didn’t expect him to be away from home so much of the time. Her needs weren’t getting met and she had been grumpy.

Thinking about it she wondered if hysteria was a real and not just made up, she sure had been frustrated lately and easily pissed off. Just thinking of how long it had been since she’d had sex made her think about sex, about him going down on her flicking his tongue over her hard clit, fingering her with his long fingers.
Mmmm she moaned subconsciously, shit she thought, I am frustrated. She hurried to finish the dishes.

Deciding to herself it was time to take matters into her own hands. Nobody else was around and she needed a release, even the decision to masturbate gave her a small taste of relief. Now she let her mind wander, the guy from the post office down the street was hot. She had noticed him a few times lately and seen him delivering her mail. She allowed herself to fantasize about him, when she thought about what James would think she just included him in her fantasy and imagined having a three-way with them both catering to her desires. She would love to have two men at once, her face serious now, was full of lust, wishful thinking. She pulled the plug from the sink and dried her hands on at tea towel.

Her body was needy, aching for some stimulation. She didn’t make it to the bedroom, just stood there next to the bench and let her hand roam. It slid under the thin fabric of her underwear down past the little tuft of hair to the bump she rubbed and let her fingers circle. She felt the moisture as her pussy tightened, her body was hungry she thought about the two men fucking her, one licking her while the other took her from behind.

Her fingers crept down reaching the warm, wetness, she ran her finger around the opening, teasing herself until she was sore. Letting her hand run smoothly further back she stroked the outside of her butt, pressing on the tight little hole that opened slightly at her touch. In her mind she would get fucked everywhere. Wondering what it would feel like to have them both at once made her hurt for it. She traced her finger back to her pussy and pushed it into herself getting it wet with a few strokes and pulling it out to rub herself again stroking the wetness all around as she went in and out rubbing herself up and down pausing at each end to give herself some relief.

Her clitoris was getting bigger and she needed more, realising she was holding on to the bench she lowered herself onto the cool tiles on the kitchen floor leaning her back against the cupboard door. She let her other hand explore, first feeling her breasts, stroking them one at a time, playing with her erect nipples, wishing she had someone to bite them. She let it sweep over her stomach down into her undies to take care of her throbbing mound, pressing and stroking, now hard her clit pulsed with pleasure. She continued fingering as deeply as she could, rubbing on her g-spot which was soft and smooth now she was so turned on. She knew she could cum at any moment. Both her hands were busy, moving fast, desperately trying to please herself.

She wished the postman would deliver her something right now, maybe he could smell the sex on her and would offer to join in. Ian was his name, she thought about Ian and Peter together both pushing in and out in unison working together to get her to climax. The thought of it was too much her hands started to move faster, the pressure growing. She pinched her hood with two fingers as they rubbed back and forth with the middle finger tickling the protruding hard clit. Her pussy was almost dripping she felt her pussy get wetter as she kept going. She finally worked up to a climax, her head pushed back against the cupboard door. Now she imagined her postie walking in at this moment seeing her on the floor with her hands in her stretched out undies and lifting her up to take her from behind.

“Ohhh mmm” she let out a moan and another one moving her hands with urgency she brought herself to orgasm moaning as her entire body clenched up and jolted with a spasm. She cried put loudly, letting it all go. Relief rushed over her like a warm wave. Snapping back to reality the feeling the coldness of the hard floor beneath her, she felt a little embarrassed about the position she was in.

“Beeeep” the doorbell rang. A deep voice called out to her, “Claire, are you home? I’ve got some mail for you”

Wicked Wednesday... a place to be wickedly sexy or sexily wicked

Finding inspiration next door. Wicked Wednesday, Neighbors. 

He asked keenly if I’d written anything today  he loved it when I wrote naughty stories. I  told him that I hadn’t come up with any good ideas yet. Even my toy testing session was uninspiring.

When he mentioned that he would give me some oral pleasure I jumped up quickly to grab the vibrator, and some ice. Lying back on the lounge, in the heat of summer I went back to playing with my toy. 


Lost in my own little world momentarily until he reminded me he really wanted to go down on me, that got my attention. I immediately made room for him and put my toy down. Then he did something really surprising and started using the toy on me, he hadn’t done this often before, not without being asked to and it felt amazing. 


I ran the melting ice over my breasts tracing my curves as he got to work.

He kept going down on me while he used the vibrator to stimulate my g-spot, which he did perfectly, amazingly I actually came. It rushed through me by whole body tensed and I went silent for a moment. It was both wonderful and satisfying. 


He couldn’t believe that I was so quiet as I came.I hardly ever cum through sex alone and he has really struggled to get me to cum at all so it was an achievement for both of us.   


Now I was satisfied, it was his turn. He turned me around on the couch and took me from behind, banging me intently for a few minutes before he told me about a new idea he’d thought of. He suggested, that since it was so hot we might like to take it out on the balcony. Being so late it wasn’t likely anyone would see us over the fence so he led me outside into the moonlit night. 


He gently positioned me, leaning me slightly over the rail, I kept bending over it sticking my bum up for him. Standing close behind me, he pushed himself inside then rode me. Hard and fast, I matched his rhythm pushing myself back into him. I was loving it. We were both making a bit of noise moaning and asking for more I wondered if we’d wake someone up but no lights came on, so I figured we were safe. 


We kept fucking passionately. When he came it was intense, at first he stopped himself holding it in, then he finally let go and allowed himself to have a really long, loud orgasm, there on the decking right next to the neighboring houses.


After we stopped I looked clearly straight ahead to their windows, they were overlooking the yard. They would be able to see and here we were standing together holding each other naked and happy. How could I forget they were just  there? I know he didn’t forget either, he is the exhibitionist out of us but sometimes it’s exciting to share his fantasies.


It will be interesting to know if they saw us. The looks we will get from them will give it away. Maybe they didn’t hear and we’ll have to do it again another day.