Lovehoney Deluxe Wand Couples Kit Review

My Review of the Lovehoney Deluxe Wand Couples Kit

Including Reviews of the Lovehoney Deluxe Wand, the Hummer & G-spot Pleaser Attachments and a Lockable Storage Case

Lovehoney Deluxe Wand in my hand

Lovehoney Deluxe Wand

This review is quite long as it’s for the Deluxe Wand Couples Kit which has four products in it designed for couples play. Great for using together or alone. The kit includes the Lovehoney Deluxe Wand, two wand attachments, The “Hummer Male Masturbator Wand Attachment,” masturbation sleeve and a “Lovehoney G-spot Pleaser,” gspot simulator. The fourth item is a Lovehoney storage case for the items. The Lovehoney Deluxe Wand is a newer take on their powered wand which is similar to the Hitachi Magic Wand but available in cords to suit other countries where the magic wand isn’t available.

The Lovehoney Deluxe Wand

Lovehoney Deluxe Wand Couples Kit, wand, hummer, pleaser and case
Lovehoney Deluxe Wand Couples Kit

The Lovehoney Deluxe Wand Massage Wand Vibrator is a mains powered massager designed in the likeness of the Hitachi magic wand but with the bonus of having power cables suited to different regions depending on where you order from. You can buy the wand separately or in a kit with add on attachments and it comes in black and white. At around $150 on it’s own or $200 in the kit it’s well priced for a toy that will give you lots of use and hopefully last a long time.

The deluxe model is a newer model than the previous Lovehoney Wand which is bigger and has buttons instead of a dial. It is really large in size and gets quite heavy after awhile of holding it, although I imagine many people wouldn’t need to hold it for that long. The cord is 2.4meters allowing you a bit of room to move. You won’t ever need to buy batteries or charge it because it plugs straight in, depending on where you live you can order a power cord to suit your region. In places like Australia the original Magic Wand isn’t available so the Lovehoney Deluxe Wand is perfect for anyone wanting to try out the powerful ongoing vibrations of a wand.

The head is has a soft but firm Silicone coating and the handle ABS plastic, it’s also free of Phthalates and Latex free. I noticed after a long time of using it the silicone starts to soften and come away from the internal part of the head. That could be part of the reason it turns off automatically after about half an hour. The function of automatically switching off is also good for if you fall asleep during use, that’s if you can with the noise.

The vibrations can be quite intense and cover a large surface area which may not be what some people are used to if they like more direct clitoral stimulation, there is attachments that can help with that and provide internal or more focused vibrations. There’s 20 settings including 10 levels of vibration and 10 modes of various patterns and pulsations. The settings seem to me to change the actual feeling of the vibration, they feel more rumbly at the lower level and more buzzy as the level goes up.

The different levels and modes mix it up a bit. I’m not usually a fan of patterned modes but with the wand not only does it widely vary the type and intensity of vibration, it can also allow you to leave it in place without feeling too much. So, rather than lifting the pressure some of the patterns stop or slow it for you. Some modes make it feel much more powerful in the bursts of vibration too, you can hear the power as it stops and starts, some have short bursts of vibration and pauses in different rhythms, there’s heaps of settings to choose from and it was fun trying them all.

There’s 3 buttons one to turn it on and increase the vibration level, one to change the mode and one to reduce the level again and turn it off after it reaches the first setting. They can be difficult to find when in use so I got used to lining my three fingers up, spread apart a little bit until they aligned with the buttons otherwise I’d end up changing the pattern when I only wanted to increase or decrease the level.

The noise can be be a bit distracting. It is really loud compared to toys I’m used to and at times I found myself wondering if people outside could hear it. There is no doubt it is quite powerful, you can hear the power. The handle can vibrate noisily at times and I found I had to hold it a certain way to stop this.

It also gives a good massage, which was what the original wand was sold to do. You can use it on other area of the body such as shoulder blades and the lower back or even legs and arms, anywhere that feels good. It really is multi purpose and can be used by anyone of any gender, especially with the attachments which give it different uses altogether.

Initially I found it difficult to get used to, being more accustomed to using vibrators that provide targeted stimulation. After some experimenting with positioning and getting into the right frame of mind I was able to achieve orgasm. I found it took some time though, I don’t think everyone takes so long to climax with such a powerful vibrator, from what I’ve heard some people find it to be powerful enough they prefer to use it through clothing or a layer of fabric. I tried using it in this way and found that it worked through my normal clothes, sitting up was a good position to try it in allowing for it to be used in different angles.

The head being so wide means your partner can use it on you without having to search around for the right spot. Using it as a couple can bring another dimension to playing with your vibrator. It’s worth mentioning that it’s not really good for use during sex in a missionary position and it may take some adjusting to find a position that it can be used comfortably. Again the attachment may make it easier to do.

It’s advisable to use lots of water based lubricant when using the wand, with or without attachments, to help it feel more enjoyable and to avoid irritation. Afterwards be sure to clean it as soon as possible with warm soapy water or toy cleaner and allow to dry before storing, in the case if you buy the set. If you leave it you may find it harder to properly clean because of the crevices in the neck and joins in the handle.

Teaser gspot attachment on wand with hummer next to it
Teaser on Wand and Hummer

The G-spot Pleaser

One of the attachments is the Lovehoney G-spot Pleaser it comes in the couples kit or separately. You can buy the attachments separately, both cost around $30each when not on sale. The G-spot Pleaser is made of silicone and the length of the insertable part is about 10 cm long. You pop the cup like part of it over the tip of the wand until it fits nice and snugly, on tight. Then you can use it as a normal vibrator only with the added size of the wand you need to take into account. The way they recommend doing it is to line the wand up with your body and use lubricant to slide it inside turning the handle onto more of an angle. If you follow what feels right you should be fine, to get more pressure on the G-spot you will probably want the wand on more of an angle.

While the G-spot attachment is labeled for internal use and g-spot stimulation I found it great for more direct clitoral stimulation. The head alone for me covers too much of a wide area, the G-spot Pleaser allows me to get the powerful vibrations of the wand where I want it both externally and internally. It is curved for stimulating the g-spot which some people will really appreciate. I find using it on the clit first makes it more enjoyable to use on the G-spot. It was fun moving it around and finding the spots that felt best and figuring out the right way to use it on my body.

As with all toys if you buy this one I suggest spending some time to get acquainted with it, try different positions, pressure and angles, test out the settings and give it a try before writing it off

Hummer Masturbation Wand Attachment

Wand attachments for couples kit
Wand Attachments

The Hummer Male Masturbation Sleeve can be purchased separately. It’s an masturbation sleeve attachment for penises made from the jelly like material TPE. It is important to keep it clean and dry before use for a longer life and to get the most out of it. There is a textured inner with ribbed lines on one end which is tighter and raised dots on the other end to give a different feeling when used each way. As with the G-spot attachments and any other wand add ons you put the open “cup” over the head of the wand and turn on to use. For the masturbation sleeve it’s best to have it in place before turning the wand on, in other words put the sleeve over the penis first. Use lots of lube and slide it over a hard penis for use, it stretches to help get it on.

My boyfriend had never used a sex toy like this one before, or any that were made to stimulate on the penis. He seemed to be a little freaked out at first but after relaxing a bit and feeling the sensations he was able to enjoy it more, especially after the first time using it. He tried both ways and agreed the lined, tighter end felt best when put on first. He tried it a few ways, with my help. First we tried using it as a masturbation sleeve and moving it up and down, with and without a hand around it. Another way he tried it was to leave it in place just over the start of the head with the majority of the sleeve covering the shaft, holding the wand with the vibration turned on. He tried experimenting with different modes.

The Hummer got the desired effect with him ejaculating after a short time, after the initial first use, so I can tell you that it works. You can see the sleeve moving when the wand is turned on, it vibrates and also moves side to side slightly so I imagine it would feel quite good even if it is a bit unusual for the first time user. I think it’s good to be able to have a toy you can share and that instead of only me having a toy my partner also has one now that he can use or we can use together, not at the same time though that would require some type of acrobatics.

The storage case

Black Case with Lovehoney Deluxe Wand inside
Wand in Case

I ended up with the Lovehoney Magic Wand Storage Case but I think the kit normally comes with a sturdy, hard case. The cases can be locked for safer more private storage, which I thought was a bonus. Both the soft and hard cases are good for storage. They’re long enough to fit the wand and have some pockets for keeping the attachments in. Allowing you to store them safely, cleanly and away from prying eyes. Like the other add ons, you can buy the storage case separately.

Together the Deluxe Wand Couples Kit kit makes a great couples toy pack and will provide hours of pleasure and fun for everyone. I would recommend buying the wand in the kit to allow for the extra uses the attachments help with, especially since I find direct clitoral stimulation preferable. Anyone who enjoys vibrators would find trying a wand worthwhile I think, they aren’t for everyone but the add ons can help them suit various needs. There is different attachments available to try as well as the two in the couples kit. By including a masturbation sleeve it allows the wand to be used by almost anyone.

I have heard wands are a good option for people with certain disabilities, for example injuries that affect sensation. For those with disabilities affecting their ability to reach the lower body easily it could also be an option due to the long handle. I have to say that I’m not a Doctor nor an expert in that field, so I’d advise doing a bit of research and speaking to a sex positive medical practitioner for advice and to see if it might be the right choice for you.

Overall I think wands are good for a wide range of people. Personally I like more direct clit stimulation so the attachments are great and I look forward to trying some others in future. If you decide to give it a try please buy through my link and use the code RISQUE10 for a 10% discount at

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TMI for Valentines Day

TMI Tuesday

Valentines Day Edition of TMI Tuesday

When I post for TMI it won’t always be on Tuesday however that’s when the questions of the week get posted so I am using the name from now on I will probably refer to it as TMI. I hope you get some idea about who I am from  me doing these posts, I find them fun and hope to continue when I get the chance. If it’s not something you are interested in please feel free to skip it and check out whaht else is on the blog. If you enjoy it consider joining in too, either on your blog or here in the comments.

Questions from TMI Tuesday for Feb 13th 2108

1. Tell us two reasons why you would stay in a bad relationship. 
I would like to think I wouldn’t stay in a bad relationship but if there was an issue that could be resolved then I’d stick around and try to fix it before leaving. I think kids are a reason many people stay in bad relationships which just ends up hurting the kids. The cause of the problem needs addressing to continue the relationship. It’s hard to leave someone you love so I would think lots of us have stayed around longer than we should before leaving but if the issues can’t be resolved then it’s a good idea to evaluate the situation and consider leaving or ending the relationship.

2. Do you wish your private life was kinkier?
Absolutely. I wish sometimes that my partner worried more about my needs sexually instead of only worrying about his although it’s partly my fault for being focusedd on him so much in the beginning. If I was single I’d be looking at attending a munch or other event to meet others and learn more about incorporating kink and BDSM into my life. If my partner was into it too, I’d love to now. He said he would but I can tell he isn’t as keen as I am. I wonder if blog research is a good enough reason to attend some events.

3. Tell us about your weirdest sexual experience.
Um, no.  I have had a few though. I will say that it scared me a little and I was a bit shocked the first time someone wanted to tie me up and suspend me from the roof, I regret passing up the opportunity now and haven’t had the offer again. I know, I’m hanging out in the wrong places. I try to convince my bf to use the ropes more often. I’ve had people think I’m weird for my love of sex toys and freak out when I bought out a vibrator. So, weird is relative.

4. Can you have a totally hands-free orgasm?
Not usually no but I have had a couple. Once I had a stressful exam during it I had an orgasm from the pressure, I think that’s why anyway but it left me stunned. Spanking alone made me reach orgasm once, that was also unexpected.

5. What tips can you give for staying hard (you personally or keeping your partner hard)?
Make sure they are comfortable and use your hands and mouth. Sometimes it’s not going to happen and I suggest not pushing the issue because worrying will make it more difficult to get or keep it up.

Bonus: Is it okay to not celebrate Valentine’s Day even though you have a partner? Why or why not?

It’s fine to do whatever you like but I think it’s nice to show them some affection, not just on Valentines day but it’s a good day to remember to give them some acknowledgement and remind them you are attracted to them and or love them. You don’t have to spend a lot to celebrate Valentines Day. Even picking a flower from the garden is a special act that may make your partner feel special. A massage or special dinner is something else that you don’t need money for and is nice to do on any day of the year.

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My 4th TMI (on Sunday)

TMI Tuesday

Random Q&A all about Me

TMI Tuesday on Sunday

This is my 4th TMI Tuesday post. These questions are from February 6th 2018

It looks like I’ll be posting my answers on the wrong day another week but that means you get a double dose of too much information about me, if I manage to get it done on Tuesday this week.

I wanted to add that you’re more than welcome to answer the questions yourself here in the comments or in your own blog, the questions can be found at the TMI blog through the link at the end, just click the picture.

This week’s answers are short compared with last weeks. I’m considering adding some random ones myself in future or if anyone has any you’d like me to answer please comment and next week I’ll add them. So, here goes another TMI post about me. Have a great day peeps!

Questions & Answers

1. Pancakes or waffles?
I like waffles better but where I live you don’t see them that often so it’s usually pancakes. Probably because they’re easier.

2. Steak or Lobster?
Lobster is a rare luxury in my life, steak is too these days but it’s more likely I could afford a steak than lobster. I can’t even remember what lobster tastes like come to think of it. I remember it was yummy.

3. Freckles or dimples?
As someone with freckles I have to say dimples. As they say the grass is always greener on the other side. I don’t have dimples but I’d love to, I think they’re gorgeous.
*I hope some people answer with freckles.

4. Board games or video games?

Board games. Video games are all good until the controller gets thrown in a frustrated tantrum.

5. Dress up or dress down?
I like to dress up but my usual state is dressed down, comfort is key.

6. Backseat of car or kitchen peat counter? (Of course I’m talking about a spontaneous place to have sex)
Kitchen counter (where I feel most at home,) after the backseat. Lol. No probably the kitchen is comfortable but the car could be exciting so it depends, I think.

7. Nipple clamps or handcuffs? Tell us why you chose your particular sexual encounter enhancement?
Handcuffs are probably my choice, clamps have been something I’ve recently grown to love but my trusty cuffs have always been hanging around on a door handle somewhere waiting to be used.

Bonus: How was your weekend? Would you like to repeat it or never see that weekend again?

The weekend before last was hot and one I’d like to repeat. In saying that the one just gone was chilled out and relaxing so I’ll probably try to repeat that again soon too.

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Fantastic Fantasy

Masturbation Monday 179

More Erotic Fiction For Masturbation Monday.

(I’m hoping as I practice my stories will improve, however slowly. I enjoy the process so I’ll keep posting when I can.)

NSFW

I laid down on the bed my head throbbing from looking at the screen. I’d been writing all day, writing about sex and sex related themes. I didn’t feel very sexy even though I was wearing my favorite comfy Bond’s undies with the bright pink stripes. They always made me feel good, maybe not sexy in the way lace makes me feel but comfortable in my body type sexy.

I flopped back onto the pillow and closed my eyes. Ideas kept popping into my head. One minute I’d be thinking of one thing the next I’d remember something I forgot to do. I was working on a piece of erotic fiction and writing an article to “improving your sex life.” Porn was going to be one of my suggestions and also trying fantasies. Hmm fantasies, I thought. Maybe I should practice to make sure the advice I’m giving works. It seemed to work last time I had an orgasm when I was thinking about doing unspeakable things. Things I’d seen my boyfriend watching on porn. My hand absentmindedly crept down towards my stomach, tickling my skin lightly on the way.

In my mind I could picture her, she looked just like I did only a few years ago. Back when I had a good body. Two men were there both wanting to please her, to please me. One was feeling my body and sucking on my nipples while the other went down on me. My hand reached down and slid under the elastic of my striped underwear as I thought about it some more. I imagined for a moment the man going down on me was my boyfriend and the one at my breasts a stranger we had picked up somewhere for the occasion.

I stroked myself gently trying to feel everywhere. I felt the wetness inside me as I parted my lips picturing my man holding them apart and licking between them. His other hand pushing his finger inside me touching the right spot. The other guy massaged my body softly everywhere else and looked at me with hungry eyes. In my mind I thought I could give him a little action. After I got to the next level of course. I kept going until I was almost panting.

I imagined being turned over. Both men spanking me on the butt before my man takes me for himself. Pushing himself into me the other guy rubs his hands over me and moves towards my mouth with his big hard cock. I rub myself as I imagine what I would do next. I’d never had a threesome before and the idea was very tempting. I took hold of this guy’s cock and put my lips around it, taking it in while my man fucked me from behind. Reaching for my breasts he felt my entire body on the way. He kept thrusting into me, harder now that I had another cock inside my mouth. My fingers went deeply inside as I imagined being rode, while I sucked this strangers cock in my minds eye.

My drawers next to me had my favorite vibrator ready to go. What the hell I thought and reached over to open the drawer. Relieved I’d charged it, I turned it on placed it, over my magic spot buzzing away. Reaching over again to get some lube I squeezed some of the sticky cold goo onto my hand and smothered it all over my pussy down to my butt before returning to fantasy land to play with myself. Entirely enjoying my imagination. I was definitely starting to feel sexy now, entirely hot.

Both guys were hard and getting ready to cum. Prolonging the experience we decided to have a break from what we were doing and change positions. The stranger went down on me licking me eagerly and sucking me with little slurps. My man came up to my mouth with his cock hard as a rock, throbbing. I wanted it inside me while the other guy kept going down on me.

The thought of it made me really horny. I slid the vibrator in, and imagined where my scenario could go to from there.

Two guys ready for anything there with me, horny by now and considering how this could play out. So many possibilities. I surprised myself at the thoughts that came to me naturally. If I bent over maybe they could take turns? Maybe I could take them both at once? That thought got me going. Picturing it in my head it seemed like it would be uncomfortable for at least one of us.

The mind is a wonderful thing. Despite my concern about comfort, we all got into the swing of things so to speak. Everyone found their place quickly and the two of them both treated me attentively, aiming to please me and meet my needs.

That was enough for me, the thought of it lasted only a moment and I came with a shudder. Forbidden fruit is powerful and it sure got me. Feeling weak at the knees my legs shaking. I was surprised I could get so wet just from thinking. Amazed by how turned on the explicit thought got me I lay there thinking about it some more.

Before I finished I’d cum a second time. I got up to get myself a drink, smiling. Thinking about how nobody would ever know how naughty I could be. After all, it only ever happened in my mind. It seems like my tip might work, it did for me. Perfectly.

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Rainbow Luck

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Running inside quickly, the rain running from my hair down onto my face then dropping down my nose. I was saturated and so were my clothes. They clung to me and stuck tight to all my curves, slightly translucent now they were soaked.

My whole body was wet and I felt it with every movement. The water slid between my thighs as I walked and under my arms as I moved. It felt kind of sexy, I had an urge to take my clothes of and go back out into the rain naked to let the rain pour down on my freed skin. Goosebumps started to cover me as it got colder, the hairs on my arms stood up with the chill.

I had to get these clothes off. Peeling back my top it was almost like taking the skin off a banana, I had to slowly pull it away from my wet skin it clung tightly to. Underneath I had no bra on just a singlet top that was completely see through now.

I unbuttoned my favorite blue jeans and tried to release my legs from them, forgetting to take off my shoes first. Hopping around I kicked off my runners one foot at a time with my jeans halfway down, almost falling in the process. I finally kicked off the second shoe and used my feet to help free me from my dripping wet jeans. With only my wet underwear and singlet top on I went to get a towel.

Walking through the sparkling clean kitchen I glanced up to see the sun suddenly shining in the window. The rain had stopped, just like that. I went to have a look for a moment grabbing a paper towel to mop up some of the moisture that covered me. Gazing outside I saw the colors appear from nowhere. As if it had been there the whole time, a rainbow appeared in the sky.

Surrounded by grey clouds the sun cut through and presented me with the most miraculous colors from one end of the landscape to the other. I wondered about the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, had anyone ever found it? Maybe the fairies take it with them when the rainbow moves, I thought with a smile. Naughty fairies. Always up to mischief, like cheeky children. I missed being young and free. The moment lasted longer than it felt because I was still standing there as I heard the front door open and my husband come in. His footsteps towards me reminded me that I was half naked and still wet. I almost ran to get some clothes but thought better of it.

I wonder if the rainbow can bring me some luck today, I wondered. “Hey babe, how was work?” He asked as he came into the kitchen. I heard him behind me. “What are you doing, are you OK?” His worried voice coming out now. I turned to him, he looked concerned but he saw the smile in my eyes and came over to me. Putting his arm around my wet top I pointed up to the rainbow. In a moment it was gone again but he got to see it for a few seconds. Then he leaned in to kiss me. The tension between us rose as quickly as the rainbow came and then left.

We were kissing like teenagers, clawing at each others clothes trying to feel the skin underneath and touch every inch of each other. He grabbed me by my shoulders and steered me backwards towards the kitchen bench where he helped me get my butt up onto the table top. There he took hold of my undies, one hand on each side and started to pull them off. I helped a little by lifting my bum eager to see what was next.

Once they were off he went back to kissing me his face had a short layer of prickly stubble and I could smell him, that sexy smell I loved so much of his body mixed with his favorite aftershave. I grabbed his hair and pulled him deeper into the kiss my hands grasping for more of him.

He started to undo his jeans and I felt the warm rush to my groin, readying myself to take all of him. He kissed me while he kicked off his shoes and pants, his underwear were half way down when the hardness pressed into my thigh. I shifted position so it could rub onto me, arousing me into action. “Mmm,” I moaned. I could feel he was ready as I grew moist in anticipation.

He moved his hands down to position himself, getting ready to push inside me. As I felt the pressure of him filling me up his finger started to rub on my clitoris. Slowly he began thrusting in and out rubbing me while we moved together. I let my head go, dropping it behind me and let out a moan. My body moved as he banged himself into me again and again. “I got my luck after all,” I thought to myself.

I felt my nipples, poking against my still damp see through singlet. As he trusted I pinched them, rubbing them before taking off my top. Baring my breasts for him I sat there naked enjoying his body against mine. There on the kitchen bench he fucked me like we were young again. He took his hand away to hold my hips so he could go even harder.

Banging me as he pushed himself in deeper I let out my breath as moans. Sliding my fingers down, I began to rub my clit. Working up the rhythm with him until I couldn’t hold on any longer. I cried out “Oh yes, oh yes, baby yes.” I felt him get bigger inside me.

He sped up and plunged into me harder. I couldn’t hold back, he looked like he could cum so I let myself go. “Mmmm ohh yes, YES!!” I yelled as I really let myself go. I felt him tense and release, then the twitch inside as he filled me up. We hadn’t cum together like that in far too long.

Just because we were getting old didn’t mean we weren’t still sexual beings, human being. He stayed there between my legs for some time and held me, it was all the magic I needed. I silently thanked the fairies and the rainbow for brightening up my world a little.

I kissed my man on the neck, feeling his stubble prickle my lips started to turn me on again. He cupped my breast with one hand and looked like he was contemplating it. Something told me this was going to be the start of a very hot night, just then I heard the pitter patter of rain on the roof again. Yes tonight we can keep each other warm…and young.

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TMI Tuesday no.3

Questions from 30th Jan 2018 on the TMI blog

TMI Tuesday RisquéViews Edition

This week’s TMI is my 3rd I think. Again I have rambled on a bit and shared Too Much Information, but I think that’s the point. Anyway it’s not where we’ve been that matters as much as where we’re going. I hope you are all having a great week. I will see you again soon,

Zara.

1. I will never again… promise to never do something, because chances are then I’ll be a real fuckhead and end up making a huge mistake by doing it. That not only feels terrible, it looks stupid and can hurt someone as well as breaking their trust. I’ve been there before.
I could say I’ll never end up where I once was but a few bad choices would land me there. I find it more helpful to focus more on what I do need or want to do, not on what I’m trying to avoid. If I put too much thought into what I don’t want to do I give that thing energy and put myself in the position where I’m more likely to do it. As backwards as that may sound to some.

I do things to actively prevent that but sometimes I struggle. If I found myself going down that path I would seek help, probably from a professional and I’d try to get it quickly before I went too far off the track. I have supports in place that help me to try not to repeat those mistakes and they try to help me while I mend the damage done when I was unwell. Last time it took years between relapses and I went downhill fast that’s possibly why I know I can’t say never again, because I’ve been there and it did happen again. All too quickly.

One thing I don’t think I would ever do again is accept violence in a relationship, if any of my relationships turn abusive I have to get out of there. Pronto.

2. I stash _sex toys_ in my closet. Lots of sex toys, vibrators are my favorite. Just before I started this blog I threw out a big bag of toys I wasn’t using. I regret that now. So many photo opportunities and possible reviews down the drain. I keep reminding myself it was a good thing, because most of them were made of crappy materials, some were looking ready to be thrown away so that was my tipping point that pushed me to do it. The guys at the tip would have had an interesting conversation after finding that bag. My collection is growing steadily once again, yay!

3. Are you embarrassed when strangers start talking about their sex life to you? Not really, it depends who they are and how deeply they go into it. If I’m in person I’m more awkward. On the internet or phone I’m fine. If the person was seeking advice I’d most likely give it to them even if I was embarrassed.

I’ve had a few good laughs with people I barely knew talking about sex and I know I’ve told people TMI about my own life, including about sex. So even if I was embarrassed I’d grin and bear it. If I couldn’t go on with the conversation I’d politely excuse myself.

4. Would you date someone who is celibate?

Yes, If I loved that person I would. Just like if my partner couldn’t have sex anymore I’d stay with him. Yet another great reason sex toys are great!

I’ve had similar type friendships where I was basically partners with someone except for the sex part. I’m cool with that. Sometimes they’re not that was where the problems came in if I can recall correctly.

5. What percentage does each of these activities–work, play, household, sex, rest/sleep have in your life? (Must equal 100%)
Work=29%
Play=13%
Sex=11%
Sleep or Rest=30%
Household 17%
That was harder than it seems and probably wrong. I might start mapping my days.

Bonus: How do you decompress at the end of each day? How would you like to decompress at the end of each day?

I used to enjoy reading or writing in my journal at the end of the day. Now I usually check my phone to see what’s happening on social media. If I’m not trying to write something I often don’t even post it so I’m wasting time. I’d much rather post what I write then go to bed for cuddles rather than staying up worrying about all the stuff I have to do.

In fact that should be a part of my new challenge I’m setting myself. To spend the evening completing a task, such as posting what I’ve written. Then, most importantly to make sure I go to bed with my boyfriend when I can. I accomplish next to nothing when it’s late anyway.

My first challenge was going to be related to improving my sex life so going to bed by a certain time with my significant other would be a perfect starting point. Not to mention when we do go to bed together I get to unwind in my favorite way and we get to do it together!

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Sh! Bliss G Vibe Review

Sh! Bliss G Vibe Review

Getting my Bliss G Vibe

I was lucky enough to win a competition to celebrate a blogiversary from Isabelle Lauren’s blog late last year. I decided at the time I would review it, I’m glad I did. I’m a bit late writing the review but I finally got around to writing it here.

I really like the Bliss G-Vibe, it was pleasantly surprising. After looking into them more I would love to try other Sh! products. It would be great if I could have more to do with the company in general but being overseas is one obstacle. I’d love to review for them they’re a fantastic company.

About Sh!

Sh! is an award winning sex shop based in London with their shop the sh! Erotic Emporium. An online store is available at Sh! They Provide discreet and swift shipping to clients in the UK and internationally makes them accessible to anyone.

They describe themselves as a female focused pleasure store but they are more than that. Sex positive resources including online information and educational classes they run onsite. I wish I was closer to attend a class there is some really good ones covering a range of topics like bondage, seduction and orgasms.

I’ve found them to be a great, sex positive, women friendly store. They stock a great range of body safe quality toys for everyone. On top of that they’re very supportive of sex toy reviewers the community in general.

Their own range of Sh! products is available online and in-store as well as a variety of other trusted brands. Now let’s get to the review part.

Bliss G Vibe G Spot Vibrator
Bliss G Vibe

The Sh! Bliss G-vibe

This Bliss G-vibe is the first Sh! product I have used and it’s the first toy I’ve tried that is specifically aimed at internal g-spot stimulation. I’m glad I’ve now tried it because I am converted. With the Bliss G-Vibe I experienced some intense orgasms and thoroughly enjoyed using it even when I didn’t climax.

About the Sh! Bliss G-Vibe

The Sh! Bliss G-vibe is a small blue almost purple battery operated gspot type vibrator with a curved and rounded tip designed to stimulate the gspot.

It’s made from silicone and contains no pthalates, which is a good thing. For those with sensitivities, it’s also latex free.

The surface feels really smooth and the material is noticeably soft to touch. I thought it was more smooth than some silicone toys I have, it’s able to move around easily even with little to no lubricant it glides over skin easily. Firm enough to produce the desired pressure on the gspot, as the name suggests just where the Bliss G-Vibe is designed to aim for. The firmness isn’t hard so it’s not stiff there is some flexibility to help it fit comfortably and to your body shape. Some other vibes are too hard for my liking so to me the feeling of it is perfect.

Bliss G Vibe Size
Bliss G Vibe

Size wise it was pretty near perfect for me, the stem or shaft part for internal use is narrow and the tip is bulbous with a smooth rounded top. It’s a comfortable size that’s perfect for the purpose, gspot stimulation. It does its job quite well the tip is bent enough to get to the right spot and not too bent so it isn’t uncomfortable if you move it around or have it facing back or sideways.

Batteries are included with the Sh! Bliss G-Vibe, despite the box saying it didn’t. It only takes one AA battery. The battery lasts quite some time. Possibly because the vibration level isn’t really strong. Being more mild is better for internal stimulation, for me it is at least. The softer vibration also seemed to make it quieter to use so you can use it discreetly.

There is 10 settings the first 3 are levels of vibration strength the other 7 are patterned vibrations. I found the highest level best for external and liked some of the patterns for internal. It depends on you and personal choice which setting will work best. To change settings you press the button on the base and it goes up. To turn it off you have to go through all the settings before it stops that was one thing I found annoying about the G-Vibe.

It can still be used for clitoral stimulation even if that’s not the purpose of the G-Vibe. Being rounded and smooth on the tip makes it nice to use on the clit area and externally. The smoothness feels good and you can easily move it around or fit it over your clitoris. It’s good to use your vibe on different areas and move it around.

Usually I prefer clitoral stimulation and toys focusing on external vibration but I really like this toy, it’s nice to use and something different for me. Lately it’s become one of my go-to toys.

When it’s used together with clitoral simulator type toys, it can be pretty mind blowing. The first time I did and had an orgasm I was impressed, because I’d focused on both the gspot and clitoris the type of orgasm is different and much stronger. Arousing me so much I almost reached the point of ejaculation which isn’t something I generally experience.

Even without other toys, the Bliss G-Vibe alone impressed me and has converted me to gspot type vibrators. Using a mixture of movement, the sensation of the rounded end and bent tip mixed with vibration its enough to evoke arousal for most people. It’s the perfect tool to aid masturbation and take it to another level.

The button is on the base of it which I was worried would get in the way and I’d press it accidentally but I didn’t have any issues with that.
The mild vibration still provides enough feeling that you can use it externally. The rounded tip fits well on the clit and you can move it around or roll it for extra stimulation.

When inserting the Bliss G-Vibe it should have the bend faced forward, towards the front wall where the gspot is located. Move it around and allow for the pressure to get the right area you will most likely know when you’ve found. You can leave it to vibrate or move it to massage the gspot as well for a more intense feeling.

Use toy cleaner or warm soapy water to clean. Remember to be careful when washing around the battery area, although it is waterproof if the cap is on tightly. Store cleanly in a cool place as the package instructs and your Bliss Gvibe should give you a lot of pleasure. Water based lubricants are recommended, not oil or silicone based lubes.

As I have mentioned in other posts I find it hard to orgasm and usually enjoy focusing on a good amount of clitoral stimulation and some internal. The Bliss G-vibe aroused my gspot intensely and gave me intense orgasms especially when combined with external masturbation. Orgasms for me are hard to achieve but when I used the Bliss G-Vibe together with clitoral focused toys I had very strong orgasms. I think due to the pressure on my g-spot I found I produced more natural lubricant, I think I came close to ejaculation. I’m not used to gspot orgasms but I know they can have that effect. Continuing to explore internal and gspot orgasms will bring some fun times ahead.

Bliss G Vibe in Packaging
Bliss G Vibe in Packaging

Bliss Gvibe Information

Power supply: Batteries one AA

Waterproof: Yes with lid tightly screwed on

Noise level: Quiet

Vibration level: Mild

Settings: 10 with 3 speeds and 7 patterns

Materials: Silicone

Pthalates: No

Latex: No

Pros

  • Smooth feel
  • Soft
  • Mild vibration
  • Targeted end for effective gspot stimulation
  • Lightweight
  • Made by a great company
  • Phthylate free
  • Silicone
  • Waterproof

Cons

  • Button on end needs to be pushed several times to turn off, you need to go through the cycle for it to stop.
  • Nothing else really unless you count needing batteries as a con

Site Announcements for February 2018

Site Announcements for RisqueViews

Site Announcements and News

This post is slightly overdue as I lost my first draft somehow. I’ve got some news to share that I’m quite excited about. The news I’m possibly most excited about is that I’m going to be doing a lot more reviews in the coming months. Writing reviews is one of the main reasons I started this site although they’ve been hard to come by until recently.

I also have some ideas about opening the site up to guest submissions and other ways people can get involved in the site, particularly reviewers. Presently these ideas are in the development phase but as soon as I get some interest it will be all systems go.

Open for Submissions & Guest
Posts

I’d like to give the opportunity for others to share their story here by accepting post submissions, if you or someone you know has a story they would like to share please contact me. I will create a page for people wishing to submit a story or plan for one. In the meantime if you would like to contact me regarding an idea you have please feel free to email me you can find my details on the Contact page.

I’m open to topic ideas and would love to post personal stories, erotic fiction and information about sex positive charity groups organizations. Guest posts from other bloggers are welcome. A guest post exchange where we both post on each others sites is a possibility if you would be interested in that.

Product Reviews

I’m thrilled to have finally got some great reviews lined up. Below I have a list of some of the reviews I have planned so as you can see I’m going to be a busy little bee. Below are some of the brands and products I am looking at posting reviews for. It’s exciting for me to get the opportunity to finally write more reviews as I enjoy doing them and hope that others find them useful too.

One of the most helpful companies I’ve dealt with to date are Tantus, they produce a great quality line of toys including dildos and vibrators. I will be doing some reviews for them over the next little while I am awaiting the delivery eagerly. Some of the products I’m looking at reviewing include:
The Tantus Leisure,
The Tantus VIP Super Soft
and the Tantus Echo Super Soft

I’m also excited to be reviewing a Fun Factory product the Amorino, I should be receiving the product in the next few days. You can find out more about the Amorino here.

I’m expecting Rocks Off to send me something to review soon, that’s exciting too. I have reviewed one of their products before and am waiting on the mailman to deliver my review product for the Pleasure Panel which is one of their butt plugs.

I plan on posting some other reviews here for Lovehoney one of the first I have planned is for the Deluxe Wand Couples Kit, I also have a few other products of theirs to review when I have time.

I almost forgot to mention two other exciting reviews I have planned. Firstly I hope to be getting a Zumio to review soon. I’m just waiting to get the details of when.

Perhaps the review I’m most excited to do is for the Dodil. I’m not sure when but hopefully it’s going to happen in the near future, I will let you all know when I hear more. Being a small company I was thrilled when they said they’d send me one to review although I can’t say when yet hopefully it goes ahead.

In the meantime I’m expecting deliveries, one with the Amorino and one from Tantus so that will keep me busy until I get confirmation that the other deliveries are coming.

That’s what I have planned in the way of reviews and I am extremely excited about it. I feel like this is a new phase for the site and myself. I’m so glad to be promoting a few excellent companies and testing their products to help you decide what’s right for you.

Pleasure Panel

In other news I was recently accepted to be a part of Cara Sutra’s “Pleasure Panel,” board of reviewers, which I am very excited about. I look forward to doing my first official review when the post arrives, as mentioned before I’ll be reviewing a Rocks Off Butt Plug for her. I’m looking forward to being a part of the Pleasure Panel community which has some excellent blogger/reviewers on board.

Seeking Feedback Regarding Review Round-up Site

You may have seen the I’ve been posting on social media to try and gauge interest in reviving the hedovibes review site. I have been in talks with the owner of the site and would like to get an idea if anyone would be interested in submitting their reviews to the site if it were to be rebooted. It looks like I’m going to be busy with reviews so if anyone would like to volunteer to help run the site should it get started please let me know. Another idea I had was starting a new site for reviewers to post their reviews and related posts, I am in the process of setting up a test site to see how that might pan out. If I don’t receive any interest I’m afraid this is an idea I will have to leave on the back burner.

Coupons

RisqueViews has been given a coupon code for readers to get 10% off everything at Lovehoney use the link there or the code RISQUE10 to get your discount.

They also have a special for valentines day giving you 15% off purchases of $50 or more Lovehoney Valentines Coupon

Note on Affiliate Links

You may have noticed I have added some affiliate links to the site recently. This is to try and help with costs for running the site as well as to link you in with some companies I’ve found to be helpful. Some of the above links are affiliate links, some are just links to the products or sites mentioned. Tantus and Lovehoney are both affiliate links.

*Post updated so all planned reviews are mentioned. I almost forgot some important ones.

That Spark of Chemistry

Wicked Wednesday

The theme this week is Chemistry

Most of us have felt the kind of attraction that is undeniable. There’s that electricity you feel in the air between you and the person you’re attracted to. You feel a pull of magnetism between the two of you that draws you together. Once you get to the point of being close your bodies come together so naturally. First time sex can feel nervous but mostly it feels so right, like it was meant to be. As if you were made for each other.

Just the smell of the person you’re with is enough to turn you on. Hearing their voice can give you shivers. Butterflies flutter in your stomach in anticipation of seeing them again. You almost feel like a teenager again.

You have to be careful with chemistry, it’s hard to think straight with the hormones going wild. Chemistry can be dangerous especially if you’re in a monogamous relationship, if you don’t want to cheat then keep your distance and your head together. Because when you have it all you can think of is them.

When you’re with them you giggle or play with your hair. Maybe you normally wear tracksuit pants everyday but all of a sudden you want to look good and impress them. Even though they will still want you, in trackies and all if they feel it too. Usually chemistry is felt it is by all of the people involved it’s not just one sided.

It’s palpable, like it’s in the air. Your attraction is often obvious to everyone else and them. When the chemistry takes over your body language gives you away. That’s chemistry.

If you’re lucky enough to have real chemistry with your partner, the sex is amazing. Chemistry can alter your perception and change your views.

One thing I learn is differences, things like social status or age difference no longer matter (so long as you are both mature, grown adults.)

Looks aren’t important anymore or as important. What you find attractive might not be what draws you to someone you share chemistry with, yet you find them good looking no matter what, gorgeous even and sexy for sure. They may not be your type if you even have one but you want them anyway.

I feel lucky to share chemistry with my boyfriend and he is attractive. He’s also quite a lot older than me and I don’t mind at all. We have an amazing sex life, he is attractive. Submission wasn’t my usual style but since I’ve known him I wanted to submit. For him to dominate me. He is good at it and getting better.

The chemistry was noticeable the first night we met. I thought about him afterwards, I even asked mutual friends about him and where he was. The next year after we made contact again, I was so excited.

Often we would sit in his car to talk and the windows would steam up, literally, with us just talking. We both noticed it and laughed probably both thinking the same thing, how much we’d like to be together.

The hormones and chemicals were running wild in my brain and it turns out in his too, between us they were having a party.

The first time we had sex the actual sex wasn’t that good but it felt amazing to me. Anticipation and chemical attraction combined made me feel relieved to finally get close to him. The second time, we found our rhythm and it was amazingly good. For someone who never orgasms when I first met him I had orgasms a lot. Good ones too.

All this time later and even when I don’t have an orgasm I enjoy sex with him. I also care about him and love him so it’s quite lucky I found him and that the reaction in my brain allowed me to overlook our age gap. I didn’t even notice it, I felt like we were equals and apart from him being boss we pretty much are. It’s our anniversary soon, and already we have discussed marriage.

Chemistry can be dangerous in that it can strike at any time with anyone you meet. If you have chemistry with someone that’s returned and you are both free, enjoy it and just go for it. It’s satisfying being with someone where there is chemistry.

When it feels right though it’s a magical feeling. Almost like your souls recognize each other, like finding the one you belong with. When you have a strong connection with them it can feel meant to be.

You just click together. Once you get together your bodies work in sync with each other, they tune in to one another wants and needs. Sex can be euphoric.

Satisfaction can come just from being together and then you might feel even more of a sense of fulfillment. Finding that spark is something special and it’s so good to experience it.

If you haven’t got that person in your life I hope for you that you find someone you share an attraction with so strong it can only be put down to chemistry.

It’s an amazing feeling. Being apart is the hardest thing and it’s scary to think it may not last forever so enjoy it while it does and savour the moment. Revel in each other and bask in the chemical reaction that will release serotonin and other happy making goodness in your brain. That’s what it boils down to, that earth shattering feeling. Enjoy every moment of it.

Wicked Wednesday... a place to be wickedly sexy or sexily wicked

TMI Tuesday #2

TMI Tuesday

This is my 2ND TMI Tuesday that I’ve done. I like posting about some non sex related stuff now and then. Joining in TMI over a period of time might give more insight into me as a person. Plus it’s just fun and helps give me a reason to post. I considered writing some of my own questions but today I’ll stick with the ones from the TMI site.

Questions From Jan 23rd 2018

1. Favorite childhood memory?

My favorite young childhood memory is probably of Christmas days when the family all got together for a feast and the kids got to open our presents.

I have some pretty good memories from my high school years of playing up with my mates drinking and doing all the naughty stuff we weren’t meant to be doing. Some of those memories are a bit blurry but I remember one night being thrown into a backyard swimming pool with my clothes on, it was hilarious, more to the others than me at the time. Later that night we saw a shooting star and two of my friends went to kiss and my girlfriend was so drunk she threw up in our other male friends face. I felt so bad for him but he took it really well. We had obviously drank way too much that particular night. Lying in the park that night was an awesome experience I’ve never forgotten.

2. Favorite moment in the last 3 months?

In the last 3 months I’ve had some nice moments. My favorite I won’t share here, I’ll just say it’s about being with family.

I will share that I have been staying with my boyfriend for the last few months, I’ve pretty much moved in and I’m loving it. Luckily he is managing to cope with my messy side. He got me a desk and put it together yesterday for me to work on the blog which is awesome. He’s so supportive and gorgeous. He’s sexy too and it’s great exploring different things with him. Let’s just say, I don’t think our life will get boring in the bedroom any time soon.

Because I’m in love there has been many favorite moments with him. Him buying me the desk was unexpected so I felt pretty special.

3. Favorite drink on a hot summer day?

It’s Summer here at the moment and I am loving iced tea when I’m not drinking vodka and soft drink. It’s best when it is really ice cold. For a treat it’s nice to have in a jug with fresh fruit and mint leaves for garnishing. Yum! I won’t forget to mention coffee, even in Summer I have a coffee in the morning, even if it’s an iced coffee.

4. Perfect day out: what, where, with whom?

I’d love to spend the day in the country or where there’s lots of trees and nature, with my boyfriend and stay at a bed and breakfast or camp out somewhere under the stars. We’ve been talking about going camping so it’s been on my mind. Going somewhere beautiful to just relax would be great.

I’m pretty smitten at the moment so he may appear in many of my answers right now. Maybe I should use my imagination a little more…

5. Your most unexpected achievement?

My most unexpected achievement is probably starting a sex blog. The blog I have now is a little different to what I pictured even when I started so it’s even been unexpected since I planned it. Things never go to plan in life though, it’s all an experience and I’m trying to enjoy the ride. I’m in the process of reevaluating what I’m doing here and will probably do a major overhaul soon. In the meantime I am just trying to keep going and continue to find fun and joy in my writing and blogging.

Bonus: The kindest thing you ever did for a stranger?

I’m not sure what the nicest thing is but I try to do nice things when I can. I will give someone change in the street if they’re asking and I have it.

I once let someone who I didn’t really know live with me before. I have to say that was a big mistake.

I’ve done Random acts of kindness and sent online friends presents before. I would love to run a giveaway on this site and am trying to get something organized. If I can’t find a sponsor I’ll put something together.

I’ll sometimes talk to random people I meet and have heard some stories, both good and bad, some really sad. Listening to someone can be a great gift to them. Everyone has hard times and we all need to talk at sometime. I think listening to someone’s story or what’s going on for them is an act of kindness, one I and many people often do. It would be good to find out how some of those strangers lives turned out.

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