TMI for Valentines Day

TMI Tuesday

Valentines Day Edition of TMI Tuesday

When I post for TMI it won’t always be on Tuesday however that’s when the questions of the week get posted so I am using the name from now on I will probably refer to it as TMI. I hope you get some idea about who I am from  me doing these posts, I find them fun and hope to continue when I get the chance. If it’s not something you are interested in please feel free to skip it and check out whaht else is on the blog. If you enjoy it consider joining in too, either on your blog or here in the comments.

Questions from TMI Tuesday for Feb 13th 2108

1. Tell us two reasons why you would stay in a bad relationship. 
I would like to think I wouldn’t stay in a bad relationship but if there was an issue that could be resolved then I’d stick around and try to fix it before leaving. I think kids are a reason many people stay in bad relationships which just ends up hurting the kids. The cause of the problem needs addressing to continue the relationship. It’s hard to leave someone you love so I would think lots of us have stayed around longer than we should before leaving but if the issues can’t be resolved then it’s a good idea to evaluate the situation and consider leaving or ending the relationship.

2. Do you wish your private life was kinkier?
Absolutely. I wish sometimes that my partner worried more about my needs sexually instead of only worrying about his although it’s partly my fault for being focusedd on him so much in the beginning. If I was single I’d be looking at attending a munch or other event to meet others and learn more about incorporating kink and BDSM into my life. If my partner was into it too, I’d love to now. He said he would but I can tell he isn’t as keen as I am. I wonder if blog research is a good enough reason to attend some events.

3. Tell us about your weirdest sexual experience.
Um, no.  I have had a few though. I will say that it scared me a little and I was a bit shocked the first time someone wanted to tie me up and suspend me from the roof, I regret passing up the opportunity now and haven’t had the offer again. I know, I’m hanging out in the wrong places. I try to convince my bf to use the ropes more often. I’ve had people think I’m weird for my love of sex toys and freak out when I bought out a vibrator. So, weird is relative.

4. Can you have a totally hands-free orgasm?
Not usually no but I have had a couple. Once I had a stressful exam during it I had an orgasm from the pressure, I think that’s why anyway but it left me stunned. Spanking alone made me reach orgasm once, that was also unexpected.

5. What tips can you give for staying hard (you personally or keeping your partner hard)?
Make sure they are comfortable and use your hands and mouth. Sometimes it’s not going to happen and I suggest not pushing the issue because worrying will make it more difficult to get or keep it up.

Bonus: Is it okay to not celebrate Valentine’s Day even though you have a partner? Why or why not?

It’s fine to do whatever you like but I think it’s nice to show them some affection, not just on Valentines day but it’s a good day to remember to give them some acknowledgement and remind them you are attracted to them and or love them. You don’t have to spend a lot to celebrate Valentines Day. Even picking a flower from the garden is a special act that may make your partner feel special. A massage or special dinner is something else that you don’t need money for and is nice to do on any day of the year.

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That Spark of Chemistry

Wicked Wednesday

The theme this week is Chemistry

Most of us have felt the kind of attraction that is undeniable. There’s that electricity you feel in the air between you and the person you’re attracted to. You feel a pull of magnetism between the two of you that draws you together. Once you get to the point of being close your bodies come together so naturally. First time sex can feel nervous but mostly it feels so right, like it was meant to be. As if you were made for each other.

Just the smell of the person you’re with is enough to turn you on. Hearing their voice can give you shivers. Butterflies flutter in your stomach in anticipation of seeing them again. You almost feel like a teenager again.

You have to be careful with chemistry, it’s hard to think straight with the hormones going wild. Chemistry can be dangerous especially if you’re in a monogamous relationship, if you don’t want to cheat then keep your distance and your head together. Because when you have it all you can think of is them.

When you’re with them you giggle or play with your hair. Maybe you normally wear tracksuit pants everyday but all of a sudden you want to look good and impress them. Even though they will still want you, in trackies and all if they feel it too. Usually chemistry is felt it is by all of the people involved it’s not just one sided.

It’s palpable, like it’s in the air. Your attraction is often obvious to everyone else and them. When the chemistry takes over your body language gives you away. That’s chemistry.

If you’re lucky enough to have real chemistry with your partner, the sex is amazing. Chemistry can alter your perception and change your views.

One thing I learn is differences, things like social status or age difference no longer matter (so long as you are both mature, grown adults.)

Looks aren’t important anymore or as important. What you find attractive might not be what draws you to someone you share chemistry with, yet you find them good looking no matter what, gorgeous even and sexy for sure. They may not be your type if you even have one but you want them anyway.

I feel lucky to share chemistry with my boyfriend and he is attractive. He’s also quite a lot older than me and I don’t mind at all. We have an amazing sex life, he is attractive. Submission wasn’t my usual style but since I’ve known him I wanted to submit. For him to dominate me. He is good at it and getting better.

The chemistry was noticeable the first night we met. I thought about him afterwards, I even asked mutual friends about him and where he was. The next year after we made contact again, I was so excited.

Often we would sit in his car to talk and the windows would steam up, literally, with us just talking. We both noticed it and laughed probably both thinking the same thing, how much we’d like to be together.

The hormones and chemicals were running wild in my brain and it turns out in his too, between us they were having a party.

The first time we had sex the actual sex wasn’t that good but it felt amazing to me. Anticipation and chemical attraction combined made me feel relieved to finally get close to him. The second time, we found our rhythm and it was amazingly good. For someone who never orgasms when I first met him I had orgasms a lot. Good ones too.

All this time later and even when I don’t have an orgasm I enjoy sex with him. I also care about him and love him so it’s quite lucky I found him and that the reaction in my brain allowed me to overlook our age gap. I didn’t even notice it, I felt like we were equals and apart from him being boss we pretty much are. It’s our anniversary soon, and already we have discussed marriage.

Chemistry can be dangerous in that it can strike at any time with anyone you meet. If you have chemistry with someone that’s returned and you are both free, enjoy it and just go for it. It’s satisfying being with someone where there is chemistry.

When it feels right though it’s a magical feeling. Almost like your souls recognize each other, like finding the one you belong with. When you have a strong connection with them it can feel meant to be.

You just click together. Once you get together your bodies work in sync with each other, they tune in to one another wants and needs. Sex can be euphoric.

Satisfaction can come just from being together and then you might feel even more of a sense of fulfillment. Finding that spark is something special and it’s so good to experience it.

If you haven’t got that person in your life I hope for you that you find someone you share an attraction with so strong it can only be put down to chemistry.

It’s an amazing feeling. Being apart is the hardest thing and it’s scary to think it may not last forever so enjoy it while it does and savour the moment. Revel in each other and bask in the chemical reaction that will release serotonin and other happy making goodness in your brain. That’s what it boils down to, that earth shattering feeling. Enjoy every moment of it.

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