TMI Tuesday no.3

Questions from 30th Jan 2018 on the TMI blog

TMI Tuesday RisquéViews Edition

This week’s TMI is my 3rd I think. Again I have rambled on a bit and shared Too Much Information, but I think that’s the point. Anyway it’s not where we’ve been that matters as much as where we’re going. I hope you are all having a great week. I will see you again soon,

Zara.

1. I will never again… promise to never do something, because chances are then I’ll be a real fuckhead and end up making a huge mistake by doing it. That not only feels terrible, it looks stupid and can hurt someone as well as breaking their trust. I’ve been there before.
I could say I’ll never end up where I once was but a few bad choices would land me there. I find it more helpful to focus more on what I do need or want to do, not on what I’m trying to avoid. If I put too much thought into what I don’t want to do I give that thing energy and put myself in the position where I’m more likely to do it. As backwards as that may sound to some.

I do things to actively prevent that but sometimes I struggle. If I found myself going down that path I would seek help, probably from a professional and I’d try to get it quickly before I went too far off the track. I have supports in place that help me to try not to repeat those mistakes and they try to help me while I mend the damage done when I was unwell. Last time it took years between relapses and I went downhill fast that’s possibly why I know I can’t say never again, because I’ve been there and it did happen again. All too quickly.

One thing I don’t think I would ever do again is accept violence in a relationship, if any of my relationships turn abusive I have to get out of there. Pronto.

2. I stash _sex toys_ in my closet. Lots of sex toys, vibrators are my favorite. Just before I started this blog I threw out a big bag of toys I wasn’t using. I regret that now. So many photo opportunities and possible reviews down the drain. I keep reminding myself it was a good thing, because most of them were made of crappy materials, some were looking ready to be thrown away so that was my tipping point that pushed me to do it. The guys at the tip would have had an interesting conversation after finding that bag. My collection is growing steadily once again, yay!

3. Are you embarrassed when strangers start talking about their sex life to you? Not really, it depends who they are and how deeply they go into it. If I’m in person I’m more awkward. On the internet or phone I’m fine. If the person was seeking advice I’d most likely give it to them even if I was embarrassed.

I’ve had a few good laughs with people I barely knew talking about sex and I know I’ve told people TMI about my own life, including about sex. So even if I was embarrassed I’d grin and bear it. If I couldn’t go on with the conversation I’d politely excuse myself.

4. Would you date someone who is celibate?

Yes, If I loved that person I would. Just like if my partner couldn’t have sex anymore I’d stay with him. Yet another great reason sex toys are great!

I’ve had similar type friendships where I was basically partners with someone except for the sex part. I’m cool with that. Sometimes they’re not that was where the problems came in if I can recall correctly.

5. What percentage does each of these activities–work, play, household, sex, rest/sleep have in your life? (Must equal 100%)
Work=29%
Play=13%
Sex=11%
Sleep or Rest=30%
Household 17%
That was harder than it seems and probably wrong. I might start mapping my days.

Bonus: How do you decompress at the end of each day? How would you like to decompress at the end of each day?

I used to enjoy reading or writing in my journal at the end of the day. Now I usually check my phone to see what’s happening on social media. If I’m not trying to write something I often don’t even post it so I’m wasting time. I’d much rather post what I write then go to bed for cuddles rather than staying up worrying about all the stuff I have to do.

In fact that should be a part of my new challenge I’m setting myself. To spend the evening completing a task, such as posting what I’ve written. Then, most importantly to make sure I go to bed with my boyfriend when I can. I accomplish next to nothing when it’s late anyway.

My first challenge was going to be related to improving my sex life so going to bed by a certain time with my significant other would be a perfect starting point. Not to mention when we do go to bed together I get to unwind in my favorite way and we get to do it together!

This weeks TMI questions are posted today if you’d like to get involved click the link below.

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My Top 5 or so Favorite Sex Blogs of 2017

Top Bloggers of 2017

Apologies for bringing you my best of 2017 when we are already into 2018. I figured better late than never and what better time to start catching up on unfinished work than now?  I’m going to try and create a blogging schedule I can stick to this year and some of these superstar bloggers have got it down-pat, whatever their method is it’s working for them, their blogs are fantastic, informative and just really well done.

Hopefully you will check out a few from my list they are all brilliant in their own ways.

I would have made a list of 100 but I thought I better limit myself. So here’s to my midweek version of SoSS, my round-up of my fave sex blogs from 2017. I’m so glad I found each and every one of them.

  1. A great site which I really love is Candy Snatch Reviews by a Sex Positive writer who I find to be quite inspirational. Not only is she a fantastic writer she is beautiful, inside and out, smart and talented. She has a natural style which shines through on her site. I was recently convinced to buy some lingerie from Lovehoney because she looked so freaken hot in her review pics. With many accomplishments under her belt in the sex blogging and writing field including being part of the Pleasure Panel you can read her reviews, articles, erotica and more in her blog. 
  2.  Dangerous Lilly’s  blog is informative and invaluable for anyone interested in sex toys particularly sex bloggers. I wish I had paid more attention to her when I first stumbled across her site. I’ve spent a lot of time recently over there looking at her articles on the ingredients found in our sex toys and lubes, there is some really well written and important info over there. She also has advice for new sex bloggers which I can’t get enough of at the moment, so she’s on my top 5 list right now.  I love her snarky attitude and that she has a tonne of knowledge tucked away on her site.
  3. Another blog I have revisited over and over again the last few weeks mainly for the Sex Blogger SEO articles, which are really fantastic. Ace in the hole is a great sex blogger all round, I can actually really relate to some of her writing about being an asexual sex blogger, I don’t identify as being asexual but sometimes feel like I could be close. Her honest and well written articles and reviews are great and I’m glad I found them in time to make it into my list!
  4. Isabelle Lauren has an awesome blog where she posts some great sex toy reviews and writes erotic fiction among other things. I really like her site and have gotten to know her a bit better over Twitter after winning a competition on her site.  I am looking forward to receiving my prize so I can write a review on it. If you want to check her out her twitter handle is @romanticIsa and her official site can be found at  Isabelle Lauren .
  5. (and 6) Cara Sutra and Joellen at The Redhead Bedhead are Sex Blogging superstars and I wanted to include them here for sharing such a wealth of information and  being entertaining and fantastic bloggers when they’re not sharing all their secrets to success. I am always in awe of the brilliance of some people out there when it comes to blogging. Are they just natural talents or did they too learn like I’m trying too?

 

 

Top Bloggers of 2017
LUM3N / Pixabay

Special Mention

Three of my all time favorite sex bloggers spend a lot of time encouraging other newbies and I love their work.

  • Molly who works tirelessly to bring us the latest sex blogging glory including Sinful Sundays and so much more  at Molly’s Daily Kiss
  • Rebel  who hosts Wicked Wednesday and runs her own awesome blog Rebelsnotes 
  • and Kayla who hosts Masturbation Mondays from KaylaLords.com

This post was actually meant to be for last weeks Wicked Wednesday but I think I’ve cut it a bit fine and missed the deadline, you can find other bloggers best of lists at Wicked Wednesday 

I recently wrote about other bloggers who I admire here for my 1st SoSS 

I hope I haven’t been too repetitive, if I have it means I love your work twice as much! So there is my top sex blogs of 2017 from me I hope you can find something you like in this great list of amazing bloggers!

 

My Top 5 or so Favorite Sex Blogs of 2017

Top Bloggers of 2017

Apologies for bringing you my best of 2017 when we are already into 2018. I figured better late than never and what better time to start catching up on unfinished work than now?  I’m going to try and create a blogging schedule I can stick to this year and some of these superstar bloggers have got it down-pat, whatever their method is it’s working for them, their blogs are fantastic, informative and just really well done.

Hopefully you will check out a few from my list they are all brilliant in their own ways.

I would have made a list of 100 but I thought I better limit myself. So here’s to my midweek version of SoSS, my round-up of my fave sex blogs from 2017. I’m so glad I found each and every one of them.

  1. A great site which I really love is Candy Snatch Reviews by a Sex Positive writer who I find to be quite inspirational. Not only is she a fantastic writer she is beautiful, inside and out, smart and talented. She has a natural style which shines through on her site. I was recently convinced to buy some lingerie from Lovehoney because she looked so freaken hot in her review pics. With many accomplishments under her belt in the sex blogging and writing field including being part of the Pleasure Panel you can read her reviews, articles, erotica and more in her blog. 
  2.  Dangerous Lilly’s  blog is informative and invaluable for anyone interested in sex toys particularly sex bloggers. I wish I had paid more attention to her when I first stumbled across her site. I’ve spent a lot of time recently over there looking at her articles on the ingredients found in our sex toys and lubes, there is some really well written and important info over there. She also has advice for new sex bloggers which I can’t get enough of at the moment, so she’s on my top 5 list right now.  I love her snarky attitude and that she has a tonne of knowledge tucked away on her site.
  3. Another blog I have revisited over and over again the last few weeks mainly for the Sex Blogger SEO articles, which are really fantastic. Ace in the hole is a great sex blogger all round, I can actually really relate to some of her writing about being an asexual sex blogger, I don’t identify as being asexual but sometimes feel like I could be close. Her honest and well written articles and reviews are great and I’m glad I found them in time to make it into my list!
  4. Isabelle Lauren has an awesome blog where she posts some great sex toy reviews and writes erotic fiction among other things. I really like her site and have gotten to know her a bit better over Twitter after winning a competition on her site.  I am looking forward to receiving my prize so I can write a review on it. If you want to check her out her twitter handle is @romanticIsa and her official site can be found at  Isabelle Lauren .
  5. (and 6) Cara Sutra and Joellen at The Redhead Bedhead are Sex Blogging superstars and I wanted to include them here for sharing such a wealth of information and  being entertaining and fantastic bloggers when they’re not sharing all their secrets to success. I am always in awe of the brilliance of some people out there when it comes to blogging. Are they just natural talents or did they too learn like I’m trying too?
Top Bloggers of 2017
Top Sex Bloggers pic by / Pixabay

Special Mention

Three of my all time favorite sex bloggers spend a lot of time encouraging other newbies and I love their work.

  • Molly who works tirelessly to bring us the latest sex blogging glory including Sinful Sundays and so much more  at Molly’s Daily Kiss
  • Rebelle  who hosts Wicked Wednesday and runs her own awesome blog Rebelsnotes 
  • and Kayla who hosts Masturbation Mondays from KaylaLords.com

This post was actually meant to be for last weeks Wicked Wednesday but I think I’ve cut it a bit fine and missed the deadline, you can find other bloggers best of lists at Wicked Wednesday 

I recently wrote about other bloggers who I admire here for my 1st SoSS 

I hope I haven’t been too repetitive, if I have it means I love your work twice as much! So there is my top sex blogs of 2017 from me I hope you can find something you like in this great list of amazing bloggers!

 

My Top 5 or so Favorite Sex Blogs of 2017

Top Bloggers of 2017

Apologies for bringing you my best of 2017 when we are already into 2018. I figured better late than never and what better time to start catching up on unfinished work than now?  I’m going to try and create a blogging schedule I can stick to this year and some of these superstar bloggers have got it down-pat, whatever their method is it’s working for them, their blogs are fantastic, informative and just really well done.

Hopefully you will check out a few from my list they are all brilliant in their own ways.

I would have made a list of 100 but I thought I better limit myself. So here’s to my midweek version of SoSS, my round-up of my fave sex blogs from 2017. I’m so glad I found each and every one of them.

  1. A great site which I really love is Candy Snatch Reviews by a Sex Positive writer who I find to be quite inspirational. Not only is she a fantastic writer she is beautiful, inside and out, smart and talented. She has a natural style which shines through on her site. I was recently convinced to buy some lingerie from Lovehoney because she looked so freaken hot in her review pics. With many accomplishments under her belt in the sex blogging and writing field including being part of the Pleasure Panel you can read her reviews, articles, erotica and more in her blog. 
  2.  Dangerous Lilly’s  blog is informative and invaluable for anyone interested in sex toys particularly sex bloggers. I wish I had paid more attention to her when I first stumbled across her site. I’ve spent a lot of time recently over there looking at her articles on the ingredients found in our sex toys and lubes, there is some really well written and important info over there. She also has advice for new sex bloggers which I can’t get enough of at the moment, so she’s on my top 5 list right now.  I love her snarky attitude and that she has a tonne of knowledge tucked away on her site.
  3. Another blog I have revisited over and over again the last few weeks mainly for the Sex Blogger SEO articles, which are really fantastic. Ace in the hole is a great sex blogger all round, I can actually really relate to some of her writing about being an asexual sex blogger, I don’t identify as being asexual but sometimes feel like I could be close. Her honest and well written articles and reviews are great and I’m glad I found them in time to make it into my list!
  4. Isabelle Lauren has an awesome blog where she posts some great sex toy reviews and writes erotic fiction among other things. I really like her site and have gotten to know her a bit better over Twitter after winning a competition on her site.  I am looking forward to receiving my prize so I can write a review on it. If you want to check her out her twitter handle is @romanticIsa and her official site can be found at  Isabelle Lauren .
  5. (and 6) Cara Sutra and Joellen at The Redhead Bedhead are Sex Blogging superstars and I wanted to include them here for sharing such a wealth of information and  being entertaining and fantastic bloggers when they’re not sharing all their secrets to success. I am always in awe of the brilliance of some people out there when it comes to blogging. Are they just natural talents or did they too learn like I’m trying too?

 

 

Top Bloggers of 2017
LUM3N / Pixabay

Special Mention

Three of my all time favorite sex bloggers spend a lot of time encouraging other newbies and I love their work.

  • Molly who works tirelessly to bring us the latest sex blogging glory including Sinful Sundays and so much more  at Molly’s Daily Kiss
  • Rebel  who hosts Wicked Wednesday and runs her own awesome blog Rebelsnotes 
  • and Kayla who hosts Masturbation Mondays from KaylaLords.com

This post was actually meant to be for last weeks Wicked Wednesday but I think I’ve cut it a bit fine and missed the deadline, you can find other bloggers best of lists at Wicked Wednesday 

I recently wrote about other bloggers who I admire here for my 1st SoSS 

I hope I haven’t been too repetitive, if I have it means I love your work twice as much! So there is my top sex blogs of 2017 from me I hope you can find something you like in this great list of amazing bloggers!

 

My Top 5 or so Favorite Sex Blogs of 2017

Top Bloggers of 2017

Apologies for bringing you my best of 2017 when we are already into 2018. I figured better late than never and what better time to start catching up on unfinished work than now?  I’m going to try and create a blogging schedule I can stick to this year and some of these superstar bloggers have got it down-pat, whatever their method is it’s working for them, their blogs are fantastic, informative and just really well done.

Hopefully you will check out a few from my list they are all brilliant in their own ways.

I would have made a list of 100 but I thought I better limit myself. So here’s to my midweek version of SoSS, my round-up of my fave sex blogs from 2017. I’m so glad I found each and every one of them.

  1. A great site which I really love is Candy Snatch Reviews by a Sex Positive writer who I find to be quite inspirational. Not only is she a fantastic writer she is beautiful, inside and out, smart and talented. She has a natural style which shines through on her site. I was recently convinced to buy some lingerie from Lovehoney because she looked so freaken hot in her review pics. With many accomplishments under her belt in the sex blogging and writing field including being part of the Pleasure Panel you can read her reviews, articles, erotica and more in her blog. 
  2.  Dangerous Lilly’s  blog is informative and invaluable for anyone interested in sex toys particularly sex bloggers. I wish I had paid more attention to her when I first stumbled across her site. I’ve spent a lot of time recently over there looking at her articles on the ingredients found in our sex toys and lubes, there is some really well written and important info over there. She also has advice for new sex bloggers which I can’t get enough of at the moment, so she’s on my top 5 list right now.  I love her snarky attitude and that she has a tonne of knowledge tucked away on her site.
  3. Another blog I have revisited over and over again the last few weeks mainly for the Sex Blogger SEO articles, which are really fantastic. Ace in the hole is a great sex blogger all round, I can actually really relate to some of her writing about being an asexual sex blogger, I don’t identify as being asexual but sometimes feel like I could be close. Her honest and well written articles and reviews are great and I’m glad I found them in time to make it into my list!
  4. Isabelle Lauren has an awesome blog where she posts some great sex toy reviews and writes erotic fiction among other things. I really like her site and have gotten to know her a bit better over Twitter after winning a competition on her site.  I am looking forward to receiving my prize so I can write a review on it. If you want to check her out her twitter handle is @romanticIsa and her official site can be found at  Isabelle Lauren .
  5. (and 6) Cara Sutra and Joellen at The Redhead Bedhead are Sex Blogging superstars and I wanted to include them here for sharing such a wealth of information and  being entertaining and fantastic bloggers when they’re not sharing all their secrets to success. I am always in awe of the brilliance of some people out there when it comes to blogging. Are they just natural talents or did they too learn like I’m trying too?
Top Bloggers of 2017
Top Sex Bloggers pic by / Pixabay

Special Mention

Three of my all time favorite sex bloggers spend a lot of time encouraging other newbies and I love their work.

  • Molly who works tirelessly to bring us the latest sex blogging glory including Sinful Sundays and so much more  at Molly’s Daily Kiss
  • Rebelle  who hosts Wicked Wednesday and runs her own awesome blog Rebelsnotes 
  • and Kayla who hosts Masturbation Mondays from KaylaLords.com

This post was actually meant to be for last weeks Wicked Wednesday but I think I’ve cut it a bit fine and missed the deadline, you can find other bloggers best of lists at Wicked Wednesday 

I recently wrote about other bloggers who I admire here for my 1st SoSS 

I hope I haven’t been too repetitive, if I have it means I love your work twice as much! So there is my top sex blogs of 2017 from me I hope you can find something you like in this great list of amazing bloggers!